Power
You give your power away when you make someone or something outside of you more important than what is inside of you.
If you do not value who and what you are, you will seek to borrow worth from the outer world. You will look for validation from people whom you believe know or have more than you. But since everything you need is inside you and no one can know more about your path and purpose than you do, any power you ascribe to external authorities must eventually explode in your face and leave you feeling worse than when you started. The question is not, "Have you given your power away?" The question is, "How can you get it back?"
Unsucking your life is an inside job. You do not need to import power, for you were born with it; you just need to plug the holes in your bucket through which it is leaking. THe quest is about peeling away the lies and illusions you have been told-and went on to tell yourself- that have kept you living smaller than you deserve. When you do, you will be amazed to realize how much you have settled for. THen you will have little patience for halfhearted living and reclaim your right to live from choice rather than default.
ANy experience that leaves you feeling empty, less-than, or needy does so for only one reason: You entered into it feeling empty, less-than, or needy. THe illusion is that relationships will take away the pain that keeps you feeling small; the reality is that relationships magnify the pain that keeps you feeling small. And yet there is a gift in the process: you rememeber that the source of your strength is inside you.
Alan H. Cohen
If you do not value who and what you are, you will seek to borrow worth from the outer world. You will look for validation from people whom you believe know or have more than you. But since everything you need is inside you and no one can know more about your path and purpose than you do, any power you ascribe to external authorities must eventually explode in your face and leave you feeling worse than when you started. The question is not, "Have you given your power away?" The question is, "How can you get it back?"
Unsucking your life is an inside job. You do not need to import power, for you were born with it; you just need to plug the holes in your bucket through which it is leaking. THe quest is about peeling away the lies and illusions you have been told-and went on to tell yourself- that have kept you living smaller than you deserve. When you do, you will be amazed to realize how much you have settled for. THen you will have little patience for halfhearted living and reclaim your right to live from choice rather than default.
ANy experience that leaves you feeling empty, less-than, or needy does so for only one reason: You entered into it feeling empty, less-than, or needy. THe illusion is that relationships will take away the pain that keeps you feeling small; the reality is that relationships magnify the pain that keeps you feeling small. And yet there is a gift in the process: you rememeber that the source of your strength is inside you.
Alan H. Cohen