要慢

Jan 01, 2023 23:50


For the new year, the first thing I want to do is to reduce the things I am doing. Slow it down to think. I am pretty lazy person already, not able to undertake any complex stuff. When there is complex stuff happening, I usually cannot make decision quick enough. A lot of times I spend my time on entry level stuff, while other people may think it is junior developer's job to cleanup some code base and bump dependencies. As long as the team has setup a culture of maintaining dependencies, that should not be a manager's job.



The past year (2022) I had some chance to cook. It turns out cooking with slow fire and slowly roast things to edible is not a bad experience. I would like to try more flavors, though sometimes I put too much freshly ground pepper.

It is horrible to have a few ingredients added in slow cooks. Some makes it bitter, some makes it sour. I cannot tell which.

Other things I would like to do

- work out a little. Something like 30min per day would be easier to achieve. Working out on a weekend gives good support for the next whole week. Work out with JY.

For JY he is going to accumulate screen time using exercise time. To have a healthy 7-10 hours screen time per week, he would have to go to school, skating, swimming, running, maybe others.

Since pandemic it was hard to swim in Chicago. This summer only the outdoor pools opened. It seemed forever before I could go to the pool, with or without JY. After September, I got foot injuries and could not jump. Then I gave up on skating, since jumping and spinning were both repetitive year after year. There did not seem to have hope to upgrade. In today's running, my left knee was so numb too. Rather than losing support, I could not predict where I was going to land on the left, after a while (1mi) it was painful to bend/lift/drop. Maybe to add some cross training?  I cannot just go without any sports activities.

- leave time for practicing music instrument. JY has been doing that pretty well, 20+10 every day. Usually kids learning piano can do up to 1h by his age. He might be able to increase to 30+15 or something. Meanwhile, I can practice at the same time?

- as for language study. I have been using Duolingo for more than 3 years, just on Korean. It is a good language to make one's brain active, since it follows certain rules. But in 2022 I was so lame and only worked on letters. Only recently I started to move forward - first layer at about 50% progress after 3 years, that's hopelessly slow. And pronunciation was nil. I tried to start afresh, and of all 60 levels I was determined to be at 5 or something (still working on letters..) My progress is like staying 3 years in the kindergarten. So new year I would push forward to finish the first layer.. it is difficult.

- read with JY as well, since he reads a lot.

Will keep doing the BP readings program.

- maybe play more games with JY.

I cannot remember other things. The other day I said above to JY, and it sounded like I was full time going about him. Not my intention to be a drone - I would rather him to be independent.

Btw- JY also agreed to do 5-hours per month house cleaning. That's very good for him too. He also said he was fine with skating, but would never ever take another music class (two instruments are enough, don't want to join choir.)  I do wish he can switch to Guitar and then add singing to it. His accuracy is good, but his voice is changing now that he is becoming a teenager. Very opinionated, very hard to persuade, though.

What I want to avoid is

- too lazy to follow my own schedule or finish the things I have to do. Maybe it is just the first day, maybe because I worked out (running) on both yesterday and today, I am still confident on what I am writing. But please myself slow down so that I don't get burnt out. I need to focus on one thing and to control myself.

- dismiss others. I noticed recently that a bad trend is developing: when others are talking complex stuff, their understanding, I would say "whatever, fine with me."  but that is not right. There has to have some objectivity, what it is and why;  there has to be my understanding and thought; there has to have communications. It is not clear when I put it down though. I imagined it was a way for old people to protect themselves from being challenged, and from challenging others.

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