The issue of codependency
codependcy-having anxiety about other people; living your life around someone else.
EX...when asked how life is doing, you respond "fine" and then start talking about how fine and well your husband is...not you.
People that are codependent on others generally experience a state of neurosis.
neurosis-the denial of legitimate suffering.
People tend to lose themselves (ie their identity) with codependency.
Even as a married woman, I should always live for myself. I should never forget who I am. I am still an individual, even as I am one with my husband. A good, solid marriage needs two individuals.
self-sacrificers are those that need that feeling of self-righteousness in order to deal with their anger. People have a top priority to take care of themselves...not others.
Healthy families maintain some balance, and they live for the individual members. Everyone has their own roles and identities.
enabler-someone that takes care of "weaker" people and, thus, does not allow them to grow. Enablers generally experience feelings as if they are rescuers of the weak and helpless, regardless if that is the case or not. An enabler experiences counterfeit/faux love.
I have found that the meaning of life is truly getting to know yourself.
People that drink or do drugs generally do them for one of two reasons:
1) positive reinforcement-taking something to make them feel good. ex-marijuana
2) negative reinforcement-taking something to get rid of bad feelings. ex-methadone to squelch feelings of pain due to drug dependency and/or addiction
If you drink or do drugs, ask yourself this: which of the two reasons do I use in order to justify using alcohol or drugs?
Below are a few wonderful websites for those that are seeking help or know someone that needs help with alcohol/drug dependency or addiction:
1) http://www.ni-cor.com/
2) http://alcohol-drug-treatment.net/stages_symptoms.html
3) http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/alcoholismandaddiction.html
These are very reputable and educational tools for those that are in dire need of treatment, or just to educate those that wish for the information.
"Hurt" by Nine Inch Nails
i hurt myself today
to see if i still feel
i focus on the pain
the only thing that's real
the needle tears a hole
the old familiar sting
try to kill it all away
but i remember everything
what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt
i wear my crown of shit
on my liar's chair
full of broken thoughts
i cannot repair
beneath the stain of time
the feeling disappears
you are someone else
i am still right here
what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt
if i could start again
a million miles away
i would keep myself
i would find a way
EX...when asked how life is doing, you respond "fine" and then start talking about how fine and well your husband is...not you.
People that are codependent on others generally experience a state of neurosis.
neurosis-the denial of legitimate suffering.
People tend to lose themselves (ie their identity) with codependency.
Even as a married woman, I should always live for myself. I should never forget who I am. I am still an individual, even as I am one with my husband. A good, solid marriage needs two individuals.
self-sacrificers are those that need that feeling of self-righteousness in order to deal with their anger. People have a top priority to take care of themselves...not others.
Healthy families maintain some balance, and they live for the individual members. Everyone has their own roles and identities.
enabler-someone that takes care of "weaker" people and, thus, does not allow them to grow. Enablers generally experience feelings as if they are rescuers of the weak and helpless, regardless if that is the case or not. An enabler experiences counterfeit/faux love.
I have found that the meaning of life is truly getting to know yourself.
People that drink or do drugs generally do them for one of two reasons:
1) positive reinforcement-taking something to make them feel good. ex-marijuana
2) negative reinforcement-taking something to get rid of bad feelings. ex-methadone to squelch feelings of pain due to drug dependency and/or addiction
If you drink or do drugs, ask yourself this: which of the two reasons do I use in order to justify using alcohol or drugs?
Below are a few wonderful websites for those that are seeking help or know someone that needs help with alcohol/drug dependency or addiction:
1) http://www.ni-cor.com/
2) http://alcohol-drug-treatment.net/stages_symptoms.html
3) http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/alcoholismandaddiction.html
These are very reputable and educational tools for those that are in dire need of treatment, or just to educate those that wish for the information.
"Hurt" by Nine Inch Nails
i hurt myself today
to see if i still feel
i focus on the pain
the only thing that's real
the needle tears a hole
the old familiar sting
try to kill it all away
but i remember everything
what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt
i wear my crown of shit
on my liar's chair
full of broken thoughts
i cannot repair
beneath the stain of time
the feeling disappears
you are someone else
i am still right here
what have i become?
my sweetest friend
everyone i know
goes away in the end
you could have it all
my empire of dirt
i will let you down
i will make you hurt
if i could start again
a million miles away
i would keep myself
i would find a way