Okay, let's try this:

[bast_setesh]

This is a public post, much more civil than the last.

I must make a few things clear:

I do NOT feel I was unjustified for my actions earlier, however after talking to glitterygashes, I do know I was wrong. Marissa is actually a very nice, very smart, and very interesting girl, and I was mistaken about her intent. I do feel badly about upsetting her, as the

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PART I

[heartofkara]

I will not associate with people who have limited or purposely ignorant views…The key to success, as successful people will tell you, is to always firmly believe that you are better than everyone around you…Surround yourself with good people, and then you will start to go places.
I said that you CAN pick who you socialize with but if you've got limited choices of where you can work and you must work you may NOT be able to choose who you work with. As far as always thinking you're better than everyone...that may make you successful but it also makes you more likely to ignore the suffering of others because, after all, you're more important. Oh, and you can surround yourself with good people who are not any more privileged than you and they still won’t be able to take you places no matter how good they are.

"Many women have HEARD of feminism but have NO CLUE what it's really about."
And has it occurred to you that this might be because the feminists can't even decide what it's really about?
Possibly but I'm talking about the stereotype that feminists are man-haters. And I disagree with you on the whole "the term should be equalist" or whatnot bit BECAUSE right now the FEMALE is what is degraded and what is FEMININE is degraded and thus we need a title that represents the oppressed.

My Women's Studies classes were apparently not at all like yours, because mine were full of raucous, unoppressed women with quick wits and razor-blade tongues...But I was raised and taught by feminists, and so were my male classmates…The patriarchy is at least as much a psychological construct as it is a physical one, and this belief that women have in the power of the patriarchy gives it power. … If you think the patriarchy is there, then you will see it everywhere…Oppressive patriarchy? Omgwtfpolarbear?
Well if you were taught by feminists then OF COURSE you would have known how unequal things STILL are. I was raised in a patriarchy with NO feminists, with the stereotype that feminism was something that happened in the 70's, and while knowledge of SOME inequalities but I definitely did not now of or notice all I do now.
If patriarchy is there, which I definitely think it is, then whether or not you KNOW about it-it will affect your life. I prefer to be aware of it and therefore try to act against it instead of unknowingly giving in - knowledge is power.
And yes I do believe we are living in an oppressive patriarchy but oppressive in a much more subtle way than the more OBVIOUS ways of before, which is again why many men AND women say "What the heck are you a feminist for? We already have equal rights!" they don't see/notice how women are still being repressed or if they do they do NOT notice the extent of it.