Putting Nice on Ice
After this whole Jessica thing I continue (well, as I always do) to evaluate my life and try to figure out what I’m doing wrong. I have come across a strong desire to try to purge my whole “nice guy” personality as, quite simply, it’s not doing me any good. For that matter, it really does no guy anywhere any good.
I have come to theorize that women (mistakenly) think a nice guy is some sort of pussy, wimp and pushover. They treat the nice guy as a friend and not as a potential partner. To guys, this is not ok. I have lived my entire life trying to treat women well thinking that they will desire this aspect of my personality. No matter how much I hear about guys treating women like shit, they just keep coming back for more!
So what’s my excuse? Why am I not jumping on that bandwagon? I do believe women are universally wrong in believing nice guys are pussies and I’m a living example of “nice guy done right” but no one seems to care. I’ve had women say such things as “I’m not used to dating guys who have their shit together” “You deserve better than me” and of course, “You’re a nice guy but I just don’t feel any chemistry”. All of which appear to be lame cop-outs from damaged crazy chicks.
Jessica, my latest failure, just seems to be crazy chick #50. You might take strange exception with my saying it’s MY failure but regardless of what she did at the end of the day I simply have no one. While everyone else I know has (or has had) someone, I can’t seem to keep anyone around longer than three months. I just can’t help but feel it’s because I have the capacity to treat them well and somehow they just don’t want that. From past experiences, my best guess is that some women are major balls of insecurity who somehow don’t feel worthy of being with a decent guy (ladies if I'm wrong, tell me).
We all know there are exceptions, but I sure haven’t seen one of those girls. Ladies, is this really what you want to do to guys? Is this really what you want us thinking? I know some of you are out there to change us, but is this really the change you want? Do I really have to stop being a nice guy to succeed with the opposite sex?
I have come to theorize that women (mistakenly) think a nice guy is some sort of pussy, wimp and pushover. They treat the nice guy as a friend and not as a potential partner. To guys, this is not ok. I have lived my entire life trying to treat women well thinking that they will desire this aspect of my personality. No matter how much I hear about guys treating women like shit, they just keep coming back for more!
So what’s my excuse? Why am I not jumping on that bandwagon? I do believe women are universally wrong in believing nice guys are pussies and I’m a living example of “nice guy done right” but no one seems to care. I’ve had women say such things as “I’m not used to dating guys who have their shit together” “You deserve better than me” and of course, “You’re a nice guy but I just don’t feel any chemistry”. All of which appear to be lame cop-outs from damaged crazy chicks.
Jessica, my latest failure, just seems to be crazy chick #50. You might take strange exception with my saying it’s MY failure but regardless of what she did at the end of the day I simply have no one. While everyone else I know has (or has had) someone, I can’t seem to keep anyone around longer than three months. I just can’t help but feel it’s because I have the capacity to treat them well and somehow they just don’t want that. From past experiences, my best guess is that some women are major balls of insecurity who somehow don’t feel worthy of being with a decent guy (ladies if I'm wrong, tell me).
We all know there are exceptions, but I sure haven’t seen one of those girls. Ladies, is this really what you want to do to guys? Is this really what you want us thinking? I know some of you are out there to change us, but is this really the change you want? Do I really have to stop being a nice guy to succeed with the opposite sex?