Actually no, I've been screwed around by far too many "friends" to not say anything. Friendships are not supposed to be hurtful. While yes, sometimes hearing the truth from a friend hurts, but thats a good kind of hurt. But when a friend hurts you in a bad hurt kind of way and then avoids you instead of even trying to fix things or explain or basically make any effort to show your feelings are important too, then he's not a friend.
Like in your situation, if he really was a friend worth having, he would've been honest and said he didn't want to date you. Instead he lied to you (probably to "avoid hurting you" but actually to make things easier for him) and then ended up hurting you even more when his lie became obvious. If he'd been honest from the start, you could have grieved that then but at least he was honest, right? Now you have his lying and the loss of a friend to deal with.
That always hurts the most because when it happens to me, I feel like such an idiot for investing so much time and effort into a relationship that meant nothing to the other person. I recommend comfort food. Ben and Jerry's ice cream is good, or something with lots of carbs because they make your brain release endorphins.
We swore we'd be up front with each other about everything after our relationships, and I guess only one of us took that seriously. I love that you know the whole "I didn't want to hurt you, so instead I acted like a fuckface, and lied to you" thing.... lol.....
I think it's safe to say, when I move on to bigger and better things, Chris isn't going to be involved...... I can safely shut the door on this friendship, and not worry about hurting anyone...... especially me.
Actually no, I've been screwed around by far too many "friends" to not say anything. Friendships are not supposed to be hurtful. While yes, sometimes hearing the truth from a friend hurts, but thats a good kind of hurt. But when a friend hurts you in a bad hurt kind of way and then avoids you instead of even trying to fix things or explain or basically make any effort to show your feelings are important too, then he's not a friend.
Like in your situation, if he really was a friend worth having, he would've been honest and said he didn't want to date you. Instead he lied to you (probably to "avoid hurting you" but actually to make things easier for him) and then ended up hurting you even more when his lie became obvious. If he'd been honest from the start, you could have grieved that then but at least he was honest, right? Now you have his lying and the loss of a friend to deal with.
That always hurts the most because when it happens to me, I feel like such an idiot for investing so much time and effort into a relationship that meant nothing to the other person. I recommend comfort food. Ben and Jerry's ice cream is good, or something with lots of carbs because they make your brain release endorphins.
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We swore we'd be up front with each other about everything after our relationships, and I guess only one of us took that seriously. I love that you know the whole "I didn't want to hurt you, so instead I acted like a fuckface, and lied to you" thing.... lol.....
I think it's safe to say, when I move on to bigger and better things, Chris isn't going to be involved...... I can safely shut the door on this friendship, and not worry about hurting anyone...... especially me.
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