I’m just Tired…
Sunday September 10, 2023 2:12pm
I’m tired!
Life has been rough for a while now; my mom living here, my health, finances…just everything! And I have just had enough.
My Mom Living Here…
I just had an interesting talk with my mom, as I was starting to write this entry. She wanted to know about my heart (I’ll write about that below) and we talked briefly about that. And then she told me that shes gone back on her anti-depressants, and that led into talking about her and my sister and the mobile home that they own together.
I was careful with my words this time, and with my tone; which helped a lot! My mom seemed to be very receptive to what I had to say this time. Not that I haven’t said these things before, but this time she listened without getting upset and in the end, actually said they it was a good idea and then she thanked me for the talk. I was shocked!!
I reminded my mom that before she bought that mobile home with my sister, she did own hr own mobile home. That she had sold her place to buy the mobile with my sister. That my sister had said that she would only be living there a short time, and then would be moving in with her (then) boyfriend. That fell through when she found out that he was living a double life and was married with children.
I told my mom that I have talked to my counselor, at length, about the situation between my mom and sister, that they were the biggest reason I sought out counseling (My mom didn't seem surprised at all). I told her that my counselor has suggested that they sell that mobile home, split the proceeds and each buy their own place. And if my sister refuses to sell, then my mom should move back into the home with my sister, making my sister responsible for her own actions.
My mom says that my sister will not want my mom to move back in with her, so selling will be the only option. I told my mom that she needs to tell my sister that she, (my mom), has been stagnant for nearly 2 years, waiting for my sister to get herself figured out and that its time for her (my mom) to get on with her life again. That my mom is essentially homeless and that she needs her own stability again!
My mom seemed to “cheer up” after our conversation and thanked me for having that conversation with her. She said that she heard what I said and was very receptive to my words. I just hope that she meant wat she said an follows through sooner than later!
My Health…
For the past year I have been in the process of getting Gastric By-Pass Surgery to help with weight loss. My insurance requires that I see a dietitian for a year before they will approve the weight loss surgery. So, I did that. My gastric surgeon, Doc Jonkers, required that I get releases from both my primary, Doc Paulson and my cardiologist, Doc Hennig.
I saw Doc Hennig in August and he ordered a Echo and EKG in his office, which he said came back good. But then he ordered a PET Scan of my heart to double check, which I had Friday morning in Ann Arbor. Doc Hennig called me before I got home from that test, to tell me that it showed that I have 2 moderate blockages in 2 different arteries that needed stents. We knew that I Had 2 arteries that were mildly blocked when I had OHS 2 years ago, that would eventually need to be opened. That time has come now. So I have to have a heart catheter done, to have the stents placed where the blockages are located. Once that is done, Doc Hennig will approve me for the gastric by-pass surgery! I’m not sure how long all of this is going to take, but it doesn’t matter because I want the surgery. Doc Paulson has already given the okay to have the surgery done. He said that my blood sugar and everything else is A-Okay!!
My Finances…
I am in the process of filing for Disability/Social Security benefits. I hired an attorney back in July to get the process started and I am now waiting for an examiner to get in touch with me to start the next portion. I let my attorney know that I am having another heart surgery, and he said that will definitely help my case.
Right now I am living on what’s left of my savings because I am not working. And it sucks being this broke all the time. My mom is giving me $300/mo to live here, which helps a lot. But obviously its not enough. It’s not even half of the rent and utilities here and doesn’t include any of the food costs either or other items such as toilet paper. Paper towel etc.
I am so hopeful that it doesn’t take too long to get approved (or that I get declined). When I talked with my attorney and the SSI guy for my intake, they both said it should be 6-9 months, but could take as long as a year. I’m hopeful, with ALL of my medical issues and this newest heart surgery, that I will be approved quickly. Because I cant work, and I sure do need the money!!
My mom and I got to the food bank just about every Wednesday for their produce days. Those are the days that they give out produce, eggs, bread and milk to those who come. Its not income based, its open to anyone who wants to get in line. Most of the time the line moves pretty fast, but there have been a couple days that I was in line for an hour. But its always worth it! They always give great produce!! And of course, what we don't want, we give to my daughter in law, Elz, for my grandkids. And ten once a moth, we go to the food bank for all the other foods. We went this last Thursday and were able to get lots of food that will help fill in the gaps from the grocery store. Without those 2 things, I wouldn’t be able to make it, food wise. I also get help with cat and dog food from the local pet food pantry. It’s a huge help and I am able to access it monthly. Everything helps, and I am so thankful for that!
Okay, thats all for today! Ive been interrupted multiple times while writing, so this has taken me hours.
Have a beautiful upcoming week!!
Until My Next Barefoot Journey…
Lisa M~
I’m tired!
Life has been rough for a while now; my mom living here, my health, finances…just everything! And I have just had enough.
My Mom Living Here…
I just had an interesting talk with my mom, as I was starting to write this entry. She wanted to know about my heart (I’ll write about that below) and we talked briefly about that. And then she told me that shes gone back on her anti-depressants, and that led into talking about her and my sister and the mobile home that they own together.
I was careful with my words this time, and with my tone; which helped a lot! My mom seemed to be very receptive to what I had to say this time. Not that I haven’t said these things before, but this time she listened without getting upset and in the end, actually said they it was a good idea and then she thanked me for the talk. I was shocked!!
I reminded my mom that before she bought that mobile home with my sister, she did own hr own mobile home. That she had sold her place to buy the mobile with my sister. That my sister had said that she would only be living there a short time, and then would be moving in with her (then) boyfriend. That fell through when she found out that he was living a double life and was married with children.
I told my mom that I have talked to my counselor, at length, about the situation between my mom and sister, that they were the biggest reason I sought out counseling (My mom didn't seem surprised at all). I told her that my counselor has suggested that they sell that mobile home, split the proceeds and each buy their own place. And if my sister refuses to sell, then my mom should move back into the home with my sister, making my sister responsible for her own actions.
My mom says that my sister will not want my mom to move back in with her, so selling will be the only option. I told my mom that she needs to tell my sister that she, (my mom), has been stagnant for nearly 2 years, waiting for my sister to get herself figured out and that its time for her (my mom) to get on with her life again. That my mom is essentially homeless and that she needs her own stability again!
My mom seemed to “cheer up” after our conversation and thanked me for having that conversation with her. She said that she heard what I said and was very receptive to my words. I just hope that she meant wat she said an follows through sooner than later!
My Health…
For the past year I have been in the process of getting Gastric By-Pass Surgery to help with weight loss. My insurance requires that I see a dietitian for a year before they will approve the weight loss surgery. So, I did that. My gastric surgeon, Doc Jonkers, required that I get releases from both my primary, Doc Paulson and my cardiologist, Doc Hennig.
I saw Doc Hennig in August and he ordered a Echo and EKG in his office, which he said came back good. But then he ordered a PET Scan of my heart to double check, which I had Friday morning in Ann Arbor. Doc Hennig called me before I got home from that test, to tell me that it showed that I have 2 moderate blockages in 2 different arteries that needed stents. We knew that I Had 2 arteries that were mildly blocked when I had OHS 2 years ago, that would eventually need to be opened. That time has come now. So I have to have a heart catheter done, to have the stents placed where the blockages are located. Once that is done, Doc Hennig will approve me for the gastric by-pass surgery! I’m not sure how long all of this is going to take, but it doesn’t matter because I want the surgery. Doc Paulson has already given the okay to have the surgery done. He said that my blood sugar and everything else is A-Okay!!
My Finances…
I am in the process of filing for Disability/Social Security benefits. I hired an attorney back in July to get the process started and I am now waiting for an examiner to get in touch with me to start the next portion. I let my attorney know that I am having another heart surgery, and he said that will definitely help my case.
Right now I am living on what’s left of my savings because I am not working. And it sucks being this broke all the time. My mom is giving me $300/mo to live here, which helps a lot. But obviously its not enough. It’s not even half of the rent and utilities here and doesn’t include any of the food costs either or other items such as toilet paper. Paper towel etc.
I am so hopeful that it doesn’t take too long to get approved (or that I get declined). When I talked with my attorney and the SSI guy for my intake, they both said it should be 6-9 months, but could take as long as a year. I’m hopeful, with ALL of my medical issues and this newest heart surgery, that I will be approved quickly. Because I cant work, and I sure do need the money!!
My mom and I got to the food bank just about every Wednesday for their produce days. Those are the days that they give out produce, eggs, bread and milk to those who come. Its not income based, its open to anyone who wants to get in line. Most of the time the line moves pretty fast, but there have been a couple days that I was in line for an hour. But its always worth it! They always give great produce!! And of course, what we don't want, we give to my daughter in law, Elz, for my grandkids. And ten once a moth, we go to the food bank for all the other foods. We went this last Thursday and were able to get lots of food that will help fill in the gaps from the grocery store. Without those 2 things, I wouldn’t be able to make it, food wise. I also get help with cat and dog food from the local pet food pantry. It’s a huge help and I am able to access it monthly. Everything helps, and I am so thankful for that!
Okay, thats all for today! Ive been interrupted multiple times while writing, so this has taken me hours.
Have a beautiful upcoming week!!
Until My Next Barefoot Journey…
Lisa M~