Agree 1000%. I've always said I don't go anywhere without my lifetime's worth of personal baggage and shit and that goes for show and fandom.
I've also often thought that quite a lot of the arguments over the nuances of character say far more about the poster than they do about the character, we just can't distance ourselves from our backgrounds. It's a strange thing but I've noticed some,( say for instance) "John's a terrible parent" from two different perspectives, one I think of as a recognised hurt that makes the 'bad parenting' resonate with sympathy and the other is from the opposite end of the spectrum, someone with a good parenting background or good parents themselves horrified at how he could have treated his children. Of course there's still every flavour in between, but I still think who you and what life experiences you've had very much reflect on which characters you sympathise with and which side of an argument will feel right.
Debate can be very interesting and enlightening, but sometimes there's very little willingness to accept another might just not agree but you can still both be right! As you say, arguing back and forth on something based on a perception is absolutely frustrating and pretty darned useless.
Thanks, ellie! It's fascinating how much we can learn about each other from what we say about something supposedly so removed from our lives, hey? So long as we're willing to listen with respect ...
Thank you for coming by and commenting! And praise makes me blush ... *grin*
I've also often thought that quite a lot of the arguments over the nuances of character say far more about the poster than they do about the character, we just can't distance ourselves from our backgrounds. It's a strange thing but I've noticed some,( say for instance) "John's a terrible parent" from two different perspectives, one I think of as a recognised hurt that makes the 'bad parenting' resonate with sympathy and the other is from the opposite end of the spectrum, someone with a good parenting background or good parents themselves horrified at how he could have treated his children. Of course there's still every flavour in between, but I still think who you and what life experiences you've had very much reflect on which characters you sympathise with and which side of an argument will feel right.
Debate can be very interesting and enlightening, but sometimes there's very little willingness to accept another might just not agree but you can still both be right! As you say, arguing back and forth on something based on a perception is absolutely frustrating and pretty darned useless.
The rainbow is an excellent description.
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Thank you for coming by and commenting! And praise makes me blush ... *grin*
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