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I've been reading about Dorothy Tennov, and her ideas about human bonding. In her analysis of romantic relationships, she identified an initial emotional state called "limerence" - an intense, involuntary attachment, characterized by intrusive thinking, an awkward wavering balance between hope and uncertainty.
She goes on to identify three types of beginnings to relationships-
1. Limerent-limerent bonds, in which both parties are mutually and reciprocally limerent, without neccesarily realizing it at first.
2. Limerent-non limerent, where only one party experiences limerence, while the other builds and grows in affection, in response to the attentions of the limerent party.
3. Affectional bonds - here, neither party is limerent, the bond starts off with warm, stable affection, like an old married couple.
Since limerence is by nature an unstable, temporary state, she sees the second two as being more likely to create long-term mutually satisfactory relationships.
Which type of relationship do you find yourself prone to? Are you generally the limerent or non-limerent party?
She goes on to identify three types of beginnings to relationships-
1. Limerent-limerent bonds, in which both parties are mutually and reciprocally limerent, without neccesarily realizing it at first.
2. Limerent-non limerent, where only one party experiences limerence, while the other builds and grows in affection, in response to the attentions of the limerent party.
3. Affectional bonds - here, neither party is limerent, the bond starts off with warm, stable affection, like an old married couple.
Since limerence is by nature an unstable, temporary state, she sees the second two as being more likely to create long-term mutually satisfactory relationships.
Which type of relationship do you find yourself prone to? Are you generally the limerent or non-limerent party?