Homosexuality and the world
Been reading about Neil Patrick Harris a lot lately, but this isn't gonna be about him. At least not only about him. It just takes off there.
One thing that strikes me over and over again when I read the interviews about him, is how often the gay thing is brought up. Again. And again. And again. NPH came out in 2006 and it's still coming up in every other interview.
In a way, it's good to get it out there. NPH is a great role model for the homosexual community - because he's perfectly normal and has been living in a committed relationship for five years. It's a stable person to have as a poster boy.
But it saddens me so much that it's necessary.
We're starting the second decade of this millennium - is it really necessary to discuss someone's sexuality in every other interview? And if you say yes, then why doesn't Angelina Jolie have to answer questions about being in a heterosexual relationship in every interview? Or any of the other ten thousand straight celebrities? Why do gays need to go out with press releases to tell the world what sex they like? How would we react if the straight ones held a press conference to tell the world, "Yes, I'm straight"?
Personally, I struggled with my own sexuality for ten years, back in my teens. I fell in love with girls. While all my class mates talked about boys (and then moved onto kissing and having sex), I was sitting there, wondering why I wasn't like them and why the girls were so much more interesting to me than any of the boys (who were mostly annoying and immature and I was much stronger and could beat them up anyway ^^). When I was in the last year of high school and went out with some girls from my class, they were discussing how many guys they'd had sex with (ranging from three to nine; I was a little shocked, maybe) and I was still a virgin. I didn't mind, but I was definitely in a minority. Like a one-in-eight minority in that case.
I've only ever kissed a girl. Just a few weeks after dating/kissing her, I met and started dating my ex-boyfriend (lasted three years). Now that I'm single again, I find myself looking with pretty much equal interest at both sexes. I think I did along the lines of an inverted coming out thing - my ex-boyfriend showed me that I could fall in love with boys too.
With this in mind, HBT questions will always be close to my heart. As a girl, no matter what happens, it will always be slightly easier than if I were a boy (because people do, for some reason, still have an easier time accepting gay girls than gay boys). But it's by no means easy.
At least gays are allowed to marry here now. Yay! (here: Sweden)
Also, yay for slash fanfic. In my mind, it is a way into a slightly more tolerating world. I've had a couple of reviewers (probably the ones I treasure the most) saying, I never thought about the two of them together because the gay thing freaks me out, but your story opened my eyes. Maybe it's not so bad. (Paraphrased, obviously).
I want to imagine that we're moving towards a slightly more tolerating view.
On an ending note, I have to say: I wish I had what NPH has. Not the fame and fortune - I couldn't care less about that stuff; my dreams are very different. No, I want what he has with his boyfriend. From here: "He’s made my life exponentially more livable. He’s just-great. I’m his forever protector, and I’m happiest when he’s happy." What more can any of us really wish for, other than that kind of happiness with another person? And what the hell does the sex matter when you find that person?
And I just want the world to start realizing that love is love. For me, I've never understood the whole "just one sex" thing. It's always been the person, no matter the sex, who mattered.
I don't really know what my point is; this has been said a thousand times before. I just got frustrated.
Well-written argumentation on the subject of gay marriage can be found here.
I've posted this before, but never mind:
Gay marriage vs traditional marriage
1) Being gay is not natural.
And real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning, tattoos, piercings and silicon breasts...
2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay.
In the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
3) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior.
People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract. Lamps are next.
4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all.
Hence why women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce
as well as birth control are still illegal.
5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed.
And we can't let the sanctity of Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage be destroyed.
6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children.
So therefore, gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our population isn't out of control, our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children.
Since, of course, straight parents only raise straight children.
8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion.
In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home.
Which is exactly why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms.
Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
One thing that strikes me over and over again when I read the interviews about him, is how often the gay thing is brought up. Again. And again. And again. NPH came out in 2006 and it's still coming up in every other interview.
In a way, it's good to get it out there. NPH is a great role model for the homosexual community - because he's perfectly normal and has been living in a committed relationship for five years. It's a stable person to have as a poster boy.
But it saddens me so much that it's necessary.
We're starting the second decade of this millennium - is it really necessary to discuss someone's sexuality in every other interview? And if you say yes, then why doesn't Angelina Jolie have to answer questions about being in a heterosexual relationship in every interview? Or any of the other ten thousand straight celebrities? Why do gays need to go out with press releases to tell the world what sex they like? How would we react if the straight ones held a press conference to tell the world, "Yes, I'm straight"?
Personally, I struggled with my own sexuality for ten years, back in my teens. I fell in love with girls. While all my class mates talked about boys (and then moved onto kissing and having sex), I was sitting there, wondering why I wasn't like them and why the girls were so much more interesting to me than any of the boys (who were mostly annoying and immature and I was much stronger and could beat them up anyway ^^). When I was in the last year of high school and went out with some girls from my class, they were discussing how many guys they'd had sex with (ranging from three to nine; I was a little shocked, maybe) and I was still a virgin. I didn't mind, but I was definitely in a minority. Like a one-in-eight minority in that case.
I've only ever kissed a girl. Just a few weeks after dating/kissing her, I met and started dating my ex-boyfriend (lasted three years). Now that I'm single again, I find myself looking with pretty much equal interest at both sexes. I think I did along the lines of an inverted coming out thing - my ex-boyfriend showed me that I could fall in love with boys too.
With this in mind, HBT questions will always be close to my heart. As a girl, no matter what happens, it will always be slightly easier than if I were a boy (because people do, for some reason, still have an easier time accepting gay girls than gay boys). But it's by no means easy.
At least gays are allowed to marry here now. Yay! (here: Sweden)
Also, yay for slash fanfic. In my mind, it is a way into a slightly more tolerating world. I've had a couple of reviewers (probably the ones I treasure the most) saying, I never thought about the two of them together because the gay thing freaks me out, but your story opened my eyes. Maybe it's not so bad. (Paraphrased, obviously).
I want to imagine that we're moving towards a slightly more tolerating view.
On an ending note, I have to say: I wish I had what NPH has. Not the fame and fortune - I couldn't care less about that stuff; my dreams are very different. No, I want what he has with his boyfriend. From here: "He’s made my life exponentially more livable. He’s just-great. I’m his forever protector, and I’m happiest when he’s happy." What more can any of us really wish for, other than that kind of happiness with another person? And what the hell does the sex matter when you find that person?
And I just want the world to start realizing that love is love. For me, I've never understood the whole "just one sex" thing. It's always been the person, no matter the sex, who mattered.
I don't really know what my point is; this has been said a thousand times before. I just got frustrated.
Well-written argumentation on the subject of gay marriage can be found here.
I've posted this before, but never mind:
Gay marriage vs traditional marriage
1) Being gay is not natural.
And real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning, tattoos, piercings and silicon breasts...
2) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay.
In the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
3) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior.
People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract. Lamps are next.
4) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all.
Hence why women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce
as well as birth control are still illegal.
5) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed.
And we can't let the sanctity of Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage be destroyed.
6) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children.
So therefore, gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our population isn't out of control, our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
7) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children.
Since, of course, straight parents only raise straight children.
8) Gay marriage is not supported by religion.
In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
9) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home.
Which is exactly why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms.
Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.