It's Becoming Really Obvious.
My dad messaged me on Facebook two days ago for the first time since the Father's Day blowout:
❝just thought i would say hi.. hope you are well.❞
I responded:
❝I'm doing alright.
Have you given any further thought to what I said?❞
I thought it was a pretty simple, straight-forward, and reasonably polite question. I had spent a lot of time on my last message to him, and I just wanted to know if he'd taken anything I said into consideration.
He responded today:
❝Ya know,... I was just trying to say hello to you, What do you want out of me Aren? Do you feel the need to tear into my character again! I was just saying hello... I get it!! ok❞
So I said:
❝Oh, jeezus. All I did was ask a simple question. I wasn't "tearing into your character". This persecution complex of yours is getting really old. And the simple fact that you immediately assumed I was going after you just goes to show me that, no, you haven't given what I said any thought.
Believe it or not, it IS possible for a question to just be a question.❞
It's getting harder and harder to mask my frustration with him. It would be so much easier to just cut him off, but, damn it all, he's my dad, and I'm a big softy. I want to believe he'll change, although the chances of that happening are probably about the same as the chances of me spontaneously blasting off into outer space.
(Big sigh.)
❝just thought i would say hi.. hope you are well.❞
I responded:
❝I'm doing alright.
Have you given any further thought to what I said?❞
I thought it was a pretty simple, straight-forward, and reasonably polite question. I had spent a lot of time on my last message to him, and I just wanted to know if he'd taken anything I said into consideration.
He responded today:
❝Ya know,... I was just trying to say hello to you, What do you want out of me Aren? Do you feel the need to tear into my character again! I was just saying hello... I get it!! ok❞
So I said:
❝Oh, jeezus. All I did was ask a simple question. I wasn't "tearing into your character". This persecution complex of yours is getting really old. And the simple fact that you immediately assumed I was going after you just goes to show me that, no, you haven't given what I said any thought.
Believe it or not, it IS possible for a question to just be a question.❞
It's getting harder and harder to mask my frustration with him. It would be so much easier to just cut him off, but, damn it all, he's my dad, and I'm a big softy. I want to believe he'll change, although the chances of that happening are probably about the same as the chances of me spontaneously blasting off into outer space.
(Big sigh.)