enough
My mom's cousin R., who lives in Israel, has always said "I don't need to be observant: I live in Israel [and that's enough.] "
I think that for me, for a long time, it was "I don't need to have a Jewish identity: I'm observant."
(Now it's just "I don't have a Jewish identity. That's odd.")
There was shrimp on a buffet table at the wedding, which put some Aunts in an uproar. These are people who eat shrimp. And ham. And lobster. And squid. And those weird sea animals (prawns?) that look like giant cockroaches. And milk with meat. But-- (apparently) you shouldn't have shrimp at a Jewish wedding, goddammit!
*doesn't get it*