Guy Drama
Dear World,
Thank you for introducing me to guy drama. I had graduated after five years of college and, until last December, could still count all of the dates in my life using my hands. Now...well, let's just say I think I surpassed my toes as well. I haven't really been keeping count. Still, I have now been able to enter the world of guy drama. So, thank you.
Signed, Me.
Yep. That is what I am posting about. Since I almost never post anyway, I thought this would be interesting to share with the world. I was thinking about giving the guys numbers or something, but that would be confusing. Instead, I'll just sum up the situation as best as I can.
The week before Christmas, Ryan asked me on a date and we had dinner on the Friday. It was great and what resulted from it was probably not what you expect to happen at the end of most dates. It turns out that he and some of his friends play Dungeons and Dragons every Saturday evening and they were looking for another player since they had lost one. So he invited me to join the group. I agreed but warned that I know nothing about D&D and that they would have to teach me and he assured me that it would be fine. They were taking a break for Christmas, but would start playing again in January and Ryan offered to pick me up for that.
Then the next day, Chris called up and asked me on a date for that afternoon. We had lunch and walked around the winterized botanical gardens and then checked out the aquarium. It was pretty fun and I learned a lot about him. Then he asked me out again on the Tuesday before Christmas. I turned him down because it was right before Christmas and I had family in town and it kind of caught me off guard that he was asking me out again so soon. Since he is actually from Germany, I figured he really didn't have much to do during Christmas though which was why he was asking me out so soon. The week after Christmas he asked me out on Wednesday (keep in mind that each time he has asked me out it has been the day of so far) to go on a double date with his roommate who he was trying to get of the house more often. We looked at lights and then watched a movie. Chris asked me if he could keep asking me out, and I told him that at the time I was all right with a few more dates........I probably should have thought about better phrasing it at the time. At the New Year's Eve dance, he went after me several times (I was hard to get to but not entirely on purpose. I'm a dance group hopper and I lap the dance floor several times to socialize with everyone I know).
In the meantime, D&D started up and it was fun, so I decided that I would not mind continuing. Ryan offered to continue to pick me up. No other dates. Just gaming.
Chris asked me out on a double date with one of the recently engaged couples in our ward (the girl was a girl that Ryan had really liked, just to add to the interestingness of the whole situation). We watched a movie and Chris tried to put his arm on my back which really kind of bothered me and I think he clearly read that in my body language. While he was driving me home, we had a talk. He confessed that he really really liked me, but did not want to make me feel uncomfortable. I told him that I was a slow mover, and I thought trying to ask someone out for two dates a week was for serious dating and we were not even close (actually the conversation went much better than that). He said he understood and that the only reason he was moving fast was because he was afraid other guys would see what he sees in me. Really flattering, but I still told him to wait a few weeks before asking me out again.
And Ryan and I continue to go to D&D together and talk with each other during the car ride. Mostly about games, weeks, TV shows, and other random things. I have certainly learned a lot about the gaming world. Ryan did take me out to show me where the game shops in town were and I found out I was a sucker for pretty dice. I bought two sets.
Chris did wait a few weeks before asking me out again, but then he had to cancel because of a class. This was about a week ago and I felt no great loss there (but I was nice to him). He has not asked me out again since.
Now...here are my thoughts on those two boys.
Ryan: I am more attracted to Ryan. I have really started to get to know him since last January, so about a year before he actually asked me out on a date. Ryan and I actually talk a lot at church. We were both on ward council and when we had meetings we would sit out on the couch near the Bishop's office with several other members and we'd all have interesting conversations. I have really gotten to know several of those people quite well. Ryan certainly is more sarcastic at times, but we do have similar interests. I do think he is cute. Of course, he had really liked a girl in the ward who had just gotten engaged.
Chris: Chris likes me more than I currently like him. He's a great guy, but I really don't know him all that well. In the summer he hung out with my little brother a lot, but Chris and I only had casual conversations in passing. We really did not interact much in general. When my brother left for college, I don't remember seeing much of Chris until he suddenly started asking me out on a million dates in a row. Which, while flattering, was a little much. Even with the dates, though, we still did not interact much more in church. I probably could have put in more effort, but I did not want to feel like I was leading him on. I just do not know him that well. I mean, I know some facts because I have asked him questions, but I don't know his personality very well. He seems very nice and romantic.
The bottom line ends up as this: Chris likes me more than I like him, but he's a good guy. I like Ryan, but we are just friends and we go to D&D together.
Now lets add this weekend into the mix. Chris still hasn't asked me out again, and I'm thinking that maybe he has fizzled out. I am fine with that. No heartbreak, which tells me that I just don't connect with Chris at all. I mean, we still only interact at acquaintance level at church anyway. So, I am now writing Chris out of the picture.
My ward had temple baptisms on Saturday, so I was going to tell Ryan that I would not be able to go gaming. As it turns out, what he usually does is he goes to temple baptisms, and then shows up to gaming late. So, he offered to pick me up for the temple and then we could go to gaming after. So, we did that. Apparently there is also a video game he just got that he thinks would be really fun to play with me. Anyway, at D&D, we were making new characters for a new game we would start up soon (anyone interested and I can explain a lot about D&D and games and characters at another time). Ryan and I ended up making our characters together (because the person who was in charge with the game wanted all the the characters to have past histories with each other since they came from the same little village). And...I believe our characters actually have a sort of odd romance between each other. Ryan did specifically state that one of my character's traits is a quirky turn-on for his character.
Now....let's move to today...Sunday. I gave the Sunday School lesson. I felt like I had to rush through everything, but several people told me they thought I did a great job. Anyway, while I was cleaning up my manual and scriptures, another boy, Aaron came up and said, and I quote, "do you have a boyfriend, in the strictest speaking of senses?" I was truthful and told him no, since I have not had that conversation with any boy yet. So, Aaron wanted to take me out Saturday night, which I told him I was busy (gaming night) but he thought the performance that he wanted to take me to had shows during the day on Saturday and said that he would call me when he had some times. My parents know Aaron as well and it as all around agreed that he is a strange, but good kid.
After church, though, Ryan asked me out. On a date, not just hanging out during gaming. So, I have a date with Ryan this Wednesday. It will involve dinner and video games, so it should be fun.
So, that's about what it's like right now. I never expected to have guy drama. At least not like this. But, that's about it so far. We'll have to see how it goes this week.
Thank you for introducing me to guy drama. I had graduated after five years of college and, until last December, could still count all of the dates in my life using my hands. Now...well, let's just say I think I surpassed my toes as well. I haven't really been keeping count. Still, I have now been able to enter the world of guy drama. So, thank you.
Signed, Me.
Yep. That is what I am posting about. Since I almost never post anyway, I thought this would be interesting to share with the world. I was thinking about giving the guys numbers or something, but that would be confusing. Instead, I'll just sum up the situation as best as I can.
The week before Christmas, Ryan asked me on a date and we had dinner on the Friday. It was great and what resulted from it was probably not what you expect to happen at the end of most dates. It turns out that he and some of his friends play Dungeons and Dragons every Saturday evening and they were looking for another player since they had lost one. So he invited me to join the group. I agreed but warned that I know nothing about D&D and that they would have to teach me and he assured me that it would be fine. They were taking a break for Christmas, but would start playing again in January and Ryan offered to pick me up for that.
Then the next day, Chris called up and asked me on a date for that afternoon. We had lunch and walked around the winterized botanical gardens and then checked out the aquarium. It was pretty fun and I learned a lot about him. Then he asked me out again on the Tuesday before Christmas. I turned him down because it was right before Christmas and I had family in town and it kind of caught me off guard that he was asking me out again so soon. Since he is actually from Germany, I figured he really didn't have much to do during Christmas though which was why he was asking me out so soon. The week after Christmas he asked me out on Wednesday (keep in mind that each time he has asked me out it has been the day of so far) to go on a double date with his roommate who he was trying to get of the house more often. We looked at lights and then watched a movie. Chris asked me if he could keep asking me out, and I told him that at the time I was all right with a few more dates........I probably should have thought about better phrasing it at the time. At the New Year's Eve dance, he went after me several times (I was hard to get to but not entirely on purpose. I'm a dance group hopper and I lap the dance floor several times to socialize with everyone I know).
In the meantime, D&D started up and it was fun, so I decided that I would not mind continuing. Ryan offered to continue to pick me up. No other dates. Just gaming.
Chris asked me out on a double date with one of the recently engaged couples in our ward (the girl was a girl that Ryan had really liked, just to add to the interestingness of the whole situation). We watched a movie and Chris tried to put his arm on my back which really kind of bothered me and I think he clearly read that in my body language. While he was driving me home, we had a talk. He confessed that he really really liked me, but did not want to make me feel uncomfortable. I told him that I was a slow mover, and I thought trying to ask someone out for two dates a week was for serious dating and we were not even close (actually the conversation went much better than that). He said he understood and that the only reason he was moving fast was because he was afraid other guys would see what he sees in me. Really flattering, but I still told him to wait a few weeks before asking me out again.
And Ryan and I continue to go to D&D together and talk with each other during the car ride. Mostly about games, weeks, TV shows, and other random things. I have certainly learned a lot about the gaming world. Ryan did take me out to show me where the game shops in town were and I found out I was a sucker for pretty dice. I bought two sets.
Chris did wait a few weeks before asking me out again, but then he had to cancel because of a class. This was about a week ago and I felt no great loss there (but I was nice to him). He has not asked me out again since.
Now...here are my thoughts on those two boys.
Ryan: I am more attracted to Ryan. I have really started to get to know him since last January, so about a year before he actually asked me out on a date. Ryan and I actually talk a lot at church. We were both on ward council and when we had meetings we would sit out on the couch near the Bishop's office with several other members and we'd all have interesting conversations. I have really gotten to know several of those people quite well. Ryan certainly is more sarcastic at times, but we do have similar interests. I do think he is cute. Of course, he had really liked a girl in the ward who had just gotten engaged.
Chris: Chris likes me more than I currently like him. He's a great guy, but I really don't know him all that well. In the summer he hung out with my little brother a lot, but Chris and I only had casual conversations in passing. We really did not interact much in general. When my brother left for college, I don't remember seeing much of Chris until he suddenly started asking me out on a million dates in a row. Which, while flattering, was a little much. Even with the dates, though, we still did not interact much more in church. I probably could have put in more effort, but I did not want to feel like I was leading him on. I just do not know him that well. I mean, I know some facts because I have asked him questions, but I don't know his personality very well. He seems very nice and romantic.
The bottom line ends up as this: Chris likes me more than I like him, but he's a good guy. I like Ryan, but we are just friends and we go to D&D together.
Now lets add this weekend into the mix. Chris still hasn't asked me out again, and I'm thinking that maybe he has fizzled out. I am fine with that. No heartbreak, which tells me that I just don't connect with Chris at all. I mean, we still only interact at acquaintance level at church anyway. So, I am now writing Chris out of the picture.
My ward had temple baptisms on Saturday, so I was going to tell Ryan that I would not be able to go gaming. As it turns out, what he usually does is he goes to temple baptisms, and then shows up to gaming late. So, he offered to pick me up for the temple and then we could go to gaming after. So, we did that. Apparently there is also a video game he just got that he thinks would be really fun to play with me. Anyway, at D&D, we were making new characters for a new game we would start up soon (anyone interested and I can explain a lot about D&D and games and characters at another time). Ryan and I ended up making our characters together (because the person who was in charge with the game wanted all the the characters to have past histories with each other since they came from the same little village). And...I believe our characters actually have a sort of odd romance between each other. Ryan did specifically state that one of my character's traits is a quirky turn-on for his character.
Now....let's move to today...Sunday. I gave the Sunday School lesson. I felt like I had to rush through everything, but several people told me they thought I did a great job. Anyway, while I was cleaning up my manual and scriptures, another boy, Aaron came up and said, and I quote, "do you have a boyfriend, in the strictest speaking of senses?" I was truthful and told him no, since I have not had that conversation with any boy yet. So, Aaron wanted to take me out Saturday night, which I told him I was busy (gaming night) but he thought the performance that he wanted to take me to had shows during the day on Saturday and said that he would call me when he had some times. My parents know Aaron as well and it as all around agreed that he is a strange, but good kid.
After church, though, Ryan asked me out. On a date, not just hanging out during gaming. So, I have a date with Ryan this Wednesday. It will involve dinner and video games, so it should be fun.
So, that's about what it's like right now. I never expected to have guy drama. At least not like this. But, that's about it so far. We'll have to see how it goes this week.