This Is A Survey
I see these surveys, lists, and what-have-you of what girls perceive as their dream guy popping up in the bulletin posts every day or so. It's always the same list: must listen, must respect me, must open doors, that shibang. To me these lists fall under one category, girls want a man who's chivalrous. They want that courteous, compassionate, knight that will battle an army to ascend her tower and come to her rescue. They want that fairy tale.
So here's my rant. If you want that fairy tale, why do so many girls go out of their way to destroy it? Before I continue, allow me to clarify that I am in no way referring to myself or any one in particular, this is just an observation and a bit of echoing on my part.
The reality seems to be that girls go for the exact opposite of what they say. They want a guy that listens, yet only date the guys that ignore them. They want a guy that cares about their feelings but go for the guys that only care about sex. They want the courteous gentleman that opens doors, does all the little things, makes them feel special, yet only seem to be with the inconsiderate frat boy that treats them like shit.
And then they break up with whatever jerk they were with and post one of these angry bulletins describing their ideal man only to get with another guy of equal or worse qualities than the previous candidate. Or they'll actually find that guy, but run at the first road block they encounter. I don't understand. Is it just a matter of extreme compromise or honest to god ignorance?
I suppose these lists are just a collection of wishes gathered from every romance novel and episode of Oprah that girls don't believe they can ever have. It's just not true. "Where are all the good men," "All the good men are dead or gay", they're not dead, they're hiding. They're hiding because they've spent most of their romantic lives being ridiculed and completely overlooked by the very girls that claim to want their qualities so desperately. To quote Dave Chappelle "Yes, chivalry is dead. But women killed it."
I think that these bulletins, surveys, whatever, really do reflect what girls want, they've just become jaded and don't realize it's there and they're just not looking in the right places. That guy isn't going to be the random drunk at the bar or party with the $200 Abercrombie jeans who swears he's no player through a lustfull smile. He's going to be that friend, that quiet acquaintence, that shy kid who will offer to tutor you with no sexual undertones implied. He may not be the best looking, or most successful. Your parents may hate him, your friends may mock you for 'lowering your standards'. But he is going to be the guy on the front line for you. He's the one willing to belly crawl through Hell for you.
The point is that the fairy tale exists, it's just up to you to believe in it and not close the book just when the story is getting good.
End rant.
Begin angry comments.
So here's my rant. If you want that fairy tale, why do so many girls go out of their way to destroy it? Before I continue, allow me to clarify that I am in no way referring to myself or any one in particular, this is just an observation and a bit of echoing on my part.
The reality seems to be that girls go for the exact opposite of what they say. They want a guy that listens, yet only date the guys that ignore them. They want a guy that cares about their feelings but go for the guys that only care about sex. They want the courteous gentleman that opens doors, does all the little things, makes them feel special, yet only seem to be with the inconsiderate frat boy that treats them like shit.
And then they break up with whatever jerk they were with and post one of these angry bulletins describing their ideal man only to get with another guy of equal or worse qualities than the previous candidate. Or they'll actually find that guy, but run at the first road block they encounter. I don't understand. Is it just a matter of extreme compromise or honest to god ignorance?
I suppose these lists are just a collection of wishes gathered from every romance novel and episode of Oprah that girls don't believe they can ever have. It's just not true. "Where are all the good men," "All the good men are dead or gay", they're not dead, they're hiding. They're hiding because they've spent most of their romantic lives being ridiculed and completely overlooked by the very girls that claim to want their qualities so desperately. To quote Dave Chappelle "Yes, chivalry is dead. But women killed it."
I think that these bulletins, surveys, whatever, really do reflect what girls want, they've just become jaded and don't realize it's there and they're just not looking in the right places. That guy isn't going to be the random drunk at the bar or party with the $200 Abercrombie jeans who swears he's no player through a lustfull smile. He's going to be that friend, that quiet acquaintence, that shy kid who will offer to tutor you with no sexual undertones implied. He may not be the best looking, or most successful. Your parents may hate him, your friends may mock you for 'lowering your standards'. But he is going to be the guy on the front line for you. He's the one willing to belly crawl through Hell for you.
The point is that the fairy tale exists, it's just up to you to believe in it and not close the book just when the story is getting good.
End rant.
Begin angry comments.