Monogamy? I just don't get it
A friend of mine, in the midst of our girltalk, revealed that he had done something with another mutual friend of ours, who happens to be "happily" attached. I rolled my eyes at this piece of tell and no it was not because of something "moralistic" that I disapprove.
It's happening every where to almost virtually all the gay couple I know. Yes on the surface level they seemed monogamous, but ultimately you have no idea what kind of arrangement they have, or do they even secretly behind their partners' back have clandestine one night fucks.
And yes I am also well aware that we are not the kind of couple that most average society are modeled against. To quote from the fabulous Carrie, who quoted from Mr Big, "We're adults with no children, and we have the luxury to design our lives the way we want."
Insofar that I seem to have observed so far, just as long as we have emotional monogamy, it doesn't really matter if we are not sexually monogamous. Is that it? Is this the way gay couples go for? From the casual friend to the close friend to the online friend, it appears that everyone is guilty of sexual infidelity.
On that note, is monogamy even the way to go? For all people, sexual orientation aside. I have read before in a science article that states monogamy is actually somewhat of a rarity in the natural world. Going by the amount of cheating, divorces, breakups, affairs, I'm more than half inclined to think so.
Maybe it would be better that all relationships, straight or gay, have a time frame. After that, if both parties still want to be with each other, they can "sign" on for another X number of time. Won't it be better? For those accusing me of treating romance like a business contract, let me ask you this... is romance worth the amount of cheating, heartaches, mindgames and whatnot?