i changed this post up some because one of my best friends requested that i take it down because it was offensive to him so tried to make it less offensive
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eric, ok first of all.. the candle thing.. what we did had nothing to do with how well you knew him.. we had about 20 candles... the reason some peoples names were written on there is because those were the people we were alomost sure were going to show up...and i felt as if those people would have gotten offended if they didnt get one... i didnt know his sister was coming til she showed up.. this thing was very last minute... if we had enough money we would have gotten everyone one... if it "offended" you that much then buy it yourself.. i put every penny i had into that day and i wish you didnt feel disincluded or whatever but i tried my hardest... it was nothing about a popularity contest... incase you didnt notice i told EVERYONE that they could talk... or do anything they wanted to remember rob..i mean if the candle meant that much.. i would have given you mine.... i think the most disrespectful thing about that day is the fact that you walked out... i dont know if you knew this but robert DID believe in god.... and since we did have it at the church it was kind an obligation for the preacher to say a few words.. and he did know robert... he didnt talk forever.. i told him to close us out in prayer and thats it... im glad the church would have us so last minute anyways.. i asked him less than 24 hours before the memorial was even held..... i wish everyone would realize this isnt about them.. its about robert... we tried our hardest to make this something HE would like.. yes we might not have been "considerate" towrds some people but the only person i could think about was rob and steve... eric.. i think we should all save this discussion for a time when we can actually talk this out.. nobody meant to offend anyone... if we had more time and money maybe it would have been a little different.. but honestly i wouldnt have changed a thing because i know rob would have appriciated it.. thanks.
well i can understand the shortage. i really can. if you would have called me i would have pitched in to get more candles. but as you said "and i felt as if those people would have gotten offended if they didn't get one" what about the many people that didn't get one? i don't care about a candle with a dixie cup around it. it's the fact that some people were included and some weren't. some people that were included didn't like robert and robert didn't like them are they the ones that would have gotten offended if they didn't get one? the chruch offended me because the only reason i showed up is because i thought it was going to be a time for the people who knew rob and i didn't think there was going to be any preaching. i guess i just don't need to go to funerals because i have found that there CAN NOT be a funeral in a church with out the preacher trying to recruit for his church. i guess that's not offensive to you guys but it is to me, so if anyone else dies. I WON'T BE THERE. i shouldn't have gone and i appoligize to anyone that was offended by walking out.
thanks.
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