accidental breeders

[shannonmariah]

Hi. First-time poster. Here's what I have to say today ... why I should be and am part of the badparents community:

Holy frick; I could have written this paragraph:

Bennet-Speer says she'd never been very interested in children, but had assumed she'd have them because "that's what you do, get married and have kids." When she met her husband and he

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[scenicbeauty]

Have you ever seen a happy family at Wal-Mart that makes you think "Golly gee! Those little whippersnappers are so gosh darnn adorable that I'd sure like to make some of my own!" This will totally make everyone in the community hate me, but yeah, most of the time, that's me in the store with my kids. Not all the time. Sometimes I'm the yelling mom with the out-of-control 3-year-old who won't stay with her. Sometimes I'm the impatient mom saying "NO! You CANNOT have that." 6 million times. But, really, most of the time my kids are relatively well behaved and thanks to some glitch in the universe I seem to have been given an extra measure of patience for my children when in public (not at home though, never at home - I'm so darn impatient with them at home it's crazy

[shannonmariah]

I sure don't hate you. I love your honesty, actually.

And I agree about the accidental vs. unwanted. Emma may have been accidental, but I adore her face off. Even when I'd like to slap it (but I don't -- I promise).

[svisha_kuzya]

sometimes planned is not easy either. mine was planned...a year and a half planned (we had trouble getting pregnant). but some mornings when he's been up twice during the night I just don't know. it was so much easier before kids.

[karmalingoist3]

there's a WONDERFUL episode of "Rosanne" where DJ finds out he was an "accident" at one point Rosanne sits him down and and tells him that he wasn't an accident he was a "happy surprise"

I've always loved that way of putting it.

[brynnhavok]

That's how we phrase... that she was a surprise, from me being pregnant to her ten pound little body to the fact that she was a girl (I thought, SWORE she was a boy).

No accident, just a big surprise.