accidental breeders

[shannonmariah]

Hi. First-time poster. Here's what I have to say today ... why I should be and am part of the badparents community:

Holy frick; I could have written this paragraph:

Bennet-Speer says she'd never been very interested in children, but had assumed she'd have them because "that's what you do, get married and have kids." When she met her husband and he

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[karmalingoist3]

my mom was a teacher before she had me, and she always said that she didn't like kids until she had me.

I feel the same way about my son. We were planning on having kids, and I liked kids before, but I didn't work with them, or ever babysit or anything like that. I was the "play for five mins then hand back to mom" kind of girl. But I am SO in love with my son. But I can still only take other people's children's in small doses while there parents are there.

[shannonmariah]

I think the only reason that I survive teaching is because it's an environment that I create with the kids. And we develop such deep bonds. But yeah, when I'm just around other people's children ... I don't have that kind of pull or say ... so I'm not so in love with it. But I do love my friend's kids. I can't help it.

[karmalingoist3]

yeah I'm a teacher in a play program for kids as well. But the parents are there for the entire 45 min class (with the exception of one 1hr long class a week where i have four 3yr olds). I love working with the kids, and developing the bond, but yeah I'm glad to go home to my one child.

And I'm a single mom. My son spends the weekends with his father, and I cannot tell you how much I enjoy that time. By Sunday I'm missing him pretty badly, but by Thursday night I"m looking forward to my alone time as well. That time is so sacred to me as it's my time to not be "so and so's Mom" but instead who I am. Ya know?

[brynnhavok]

I think Single or not, everybody needs that time to just be themselves. I call it my Momma time. It's my time to not be Momma.

My daughter is my world, but with out that break, yeah...

[a_rowan_dryad]

DITTO! I adore my now 4yr old. Well... most days anyway. But to this day I still don't much care for other children unless their parents are around to give them back to if they drive me to nuts.