Yet Another Friday Poll!

[badmagic]

Poll This poll wants to date you.

Comments

[scifantasy]

Is this my fault? 'Cause that would be kinda cool.

[badmagic]

Darn, is it that obvious? Totally, and thanks for the inspiration.

[scifantasy]

You're welcome. It's a good question, and at least one commenter on mine has suggested a term perhaps worth adding to the lexicon: "Friends with feelings."

[starfyrone]

In another similar discussion someone suggested "Romantic Friends" as another marker.

Can we get a ISO committee started to standardize these terms?

[vvalkyri]

not-dating and Not Dating are different things, as is sortof-not-dating.

I'm more likely to use the term Involved. The terms with hyphens above indicate a something that for whatever reason falls short of Acknowledged Relationship.

I don't see a lot of useful times for "we're dating" 'cause /that/ means entirely too many different things to different people.

I've only had a couple people ever who I spend whole weekends with; they've been called Boyfriend.

and I've had 5ish hours of sleep in the last 56.

[badmagic]

Does sortof-not-dating fall further short of an acknowledged relationship than not-dating or less far? I'm not being snarky; I'd actually like to know.

[vvalkyri]

i think sortofnotdating . . . hm. feels more fluid. flip. i'm not sure i ever use not-dating as distinguished from sortof-not-dating (which roughly translates to 'don't freaking know but something is going on). I guess not-dating would . .

urgh.

seriously, that 5 hrs sleep thing.

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[selki]

5 hours of sleep out of 56 sounds a bit low.

[thelongshot]

I'm trying to figure out how a sexual relationship CAN'T be intimate. The two seem to go hand-in-hand...

[scifantasy]

I guess it depends what definitions we use. (Which brings us back to square one.)

[starfyrone]

The stereotypical "one night stand" rarely includes actual intimacy.

Matter of fact as demonstrated here including intimacy in a one night stand appears to be _very_ unwelcome.

[selki]

physical v. emotional intimacy.

[starfyrone]

To me, a "Date" unadorned by adverbs, adjectives, footnotes, or diagrams indicates person A has interest in the possibility of starting a relationship with one or more components of intimacy, romance, and sex, and wishes to discuss the possibility at some length absent other significant distractions with person B, and person B has agreed to at least contemplate the possibility. The purpose of the date is to explore the potential combination and intensities of the aforementioned components

[free_of_whip]

Thank you for reminding me that I am very happy not to have been dating (or just dating, or not dating, or not-dating, or DATING dating) for a very long time!