(Ignore the pronouns, if you can. I've been chatting about this thought with several peeps, and it appears to be a fairly universal thing. Coping mechanisms do not happen in a vacuum, and what was life-saving yesterday can become maladaptive as circumstances change.)
...that said: the fact that you are aware that things are not currently optimal, and that changing something could provide a possible solution, are INCREDIBLY AWESOME AND POWERFUL THINGS.
Unless you are an active danger to yourself or others, Comfy Place(ment)s aren't necessary. However, being able to seek out a trained professional and articulate where you are, where you want to be, and some idea of what might be standing in the way is the very definition of competent, functional adulting. Is good, man.
Maybe reframing this process as self-improvement would be less nerve-wracking? I found it useful to think of my ish as just something that needed to be improved, or fixed: yeah, I could try to repair my brakes myself, but holy hell would it be easier to find someone who already knew what they were doing, had all the parts and equipment, and just work with them...
Likewise, if the dude repairing my brakes turns out to be an insufferable asshole, I'd find a new mechanic, no matter how good he is at his job. Likewise, the person(s) you work with to untangle brain-knots is literally a service-provider, which you can hire/fire if they don't work out. If the psych you have the number for is too much of a muchness, you could try someone else - a social worker, psychologist, etc. that seems less imposing?
You're awesome. Self-improvement is hard, but super-useful. You can do it. *solemn nod*
(Ignore the pronouns, if you can. I've been chatting about this thought with several peeps, and it appears to be a fairly universal thing. Coping mechanisms do not happen in a vacuum, and what was life-saving yesterday can become maladaptive as circumstances change.)
* Second, a weird biological fact, and accompanying advice: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2015/09/make-you-happy-2/
...that said: the fact that you are aware that things are not currently optimal, and that changing something could provide a possible solution, are INCREDIBLY AWESOME AND POWERFUL THINGS.
Unless you are an active danger to yourself or others, Comfy Place(ment)s aren't necessary. However, being able to seek out a trained professional and articulate where you are, where you want to be, and some idea of what might be standing in the way is the very definition of competent, functional adulting. Is good, man.
Maybe reframing this process as self-improvement would be less nerve-wracking? I found it useful to think of my ish as just something that needed to be improved, or fixed: yeah, I could try to repair my brakes myself, but holy hell would it be easier to find someone who already knew what they were doing, had all the parts and equipment, and just work with them...
Likewise, if the dude repairing my brakes turns out to be an insufferable asshole, I'd find a new mechanic, no matter how good he is at his job. Likewise, the person(s) you work with to untangle brain-knots is literally a service-provider, which you can hire/fire if they don't work out. If the psych you have the number for is too much of a muchness, you could try someone else - a social worker, psychologist, etc. that seems less imposing?
You're awesome. Self-improvement is hard, but super-useful. You can do it. *solemn nod*
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