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[minecrafts]

Hi! I'm new here, handshake and all that. Here's my not super fun times of being sick

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[kikayume]

This may not be a popular opinion, but I don't think the first two nurses did anything wrong. I certainly feel awful that you had to go through that with your grandfather

[lulu_girl]

Yeah. My thoughts too. Terrible all the way around.

[bad_lcuk]

I was thinking this as well , sadly.

[kadaria]

This.

[saint_aura]

This is what I thought too.

[minecrafts]

This comment actually made me think of this in a totally new light - I really hadn't known some of these things, and others just hadn't occurred to me. Because it was such a difficult situation to be in, even now just after the two year anniversary of his passing it's been difficult to see it objectively. I admit to having no idea what a nurse's job is like or how they do things. It's been easy to assume that they were being totally unprofessional in leaving me alone with a dying man, and until now I hadn't really thought about the facts. They didn't know he was dying, for a start, let alone that he would be gone in less than a week from that point. None of us in the family had any idea what to do but I was the only one calm enough to talk to him normally until the point where it got too bad for him to do anything but scream. Eighteen is plenty old enough even if in that moment I felt about twelve. They were in a hurry because they're nurses, in a GP's office in a small town not equipped to deal with that kind of emergency, and

[idemandjustice]

It sounds silly but everybody I've spoken to about this has agreed with my emotional response and until now nobody has pointed any of this out. So in my mind there's never been any explanation but to blame them, and now I feel like I understand and actually... I feel much, much better.

I think it may be the first time here because I know I don't tend to want to try to argue with someone who is grieving about something like that. I'd generally just prefer to support the person.

I am very sorry about your grandfather. That must have been terrifying for you.

[minecrafts]

Agh, I don't know I am just so happy that I understand now. I just couldn't make myself get it and that's why I was so upset I think. I'm sorry my first post here ended up not actually bad service but I can't say I'm sorry for making it because it just made everything make sense.

Sorry, I'm rambling, just. I'm so glad somebody finally disagreed with me.

[idemandjustice]

Sometimes you need to look to complete strangers for that stuff. I'm glad it has helped you. *hugs if you want*

[saint_aura]

You accepted that really graciously, & that's beautiful :)

[minecrafts]

Thank you. I'll be honest and say that before I gave myself a minute and thought about it, my knee-jerk response was that's horrible, how can you say it's not their fault just because I was so convinced that it was. But... those are facts. And it makes sense. And having thought about it I'm much happier about the situation (obviously not happy that it happened but much less upset) and I realise that the truth like that is exactly what I needed to hear/know.

Now I can accept that they did everything they could. And thinking about it, I'm more grateful to them for not wasting time that could have been spent trying to save my granddad on trying to explain their process/procedure to a frightened teenager. I could have asked them at any point afterwards, once they were no longer tied up by the medical emergency.

[xnikki118x]

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Awesome, OP. This is the kind of thing I'd like to see a lot more. Also, I'm very sorry for your loss. 2 years or 2 minutes later I know it still hurts.

[kikayume]

Big hugs, don't worry, there's absolutely no reason you should have thought of any of that at the moment you were panicking over your grandpa. And any nurse in their right mind wouldn't be upset with you for being upset about what happened. When people you love are incredibly ill you can be irrational and kind of erratic, in some ways. (After my mom died, I spent weeks screaming at television commercials that had moms on them because it was so unfair that my mom was gone and the stupid fake TV people even got to have stupid fake TV moms). Your mind just comes up with coping processes

[laura]

I like the way you're responding to this.

As a nurse, I try really, really hard to remember that often, we encounter people on some of their worst days. For some of them, it is absolutely the worst day of their lives to date, and in doing so, we expect behavior that wouldn't otherwise present itself. I would never, ever tell someone that while they are suffering, but as it's been a while, I think it's okay to remind you of that, too. That was a really horrible day for you, and it probably really, really influenced your perceptions about how things went. Other people did a great job of pointing out some of the logistical problems, and it's great to see that you've accepted some of them.

Some nurses are assholes. Really. But most of them aren't. I hope that, with time, you can get some healing, because it does sound like a very traumatic experience, and I'm really sorry it happened to you. I personally wouldn't have been capable of handling that at 18, either.

[tisiphone]

For what it's worth, I was 33 when my grandfather died, and sitting with him in his last days I felt like I was 12 too. There just is no preparing for being with someone who's dying, especially someone you have known and loved your entire life.

[corridor7f]

*hugs* You are awesome for sharing this self-revelatory moment with us. It was no one's fault, really, and I'm sure your grandfather appreciated that you were with him in his final moments.