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[imsodunwurshit]

YOU! OMG, you fucking take the cake. I have been nothing but nice to you from the very beginning. I gave you some paid time, and sent you every icon of him I had. Plus, his music that you didn't have. I thought we were friends of a sort. Then you began your abuse

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[westslide]

Well, that sucks. I personally think that when you're role-playing with someone, especially in a close relationship of some form, it does nothing but help fun for everyone if you have conversations about plots and the characters. It doesn't mean you can't have surprises and twists for each other, but there should be a positive back-and-forth OOC. Because it's not fun RP if we're not invested in our characters, and whilst we equally shouldn't take IC things OOC, it's easy for it to be Not Fun if your character is getting fucked over repeatedly by things out of their control. If you're role-playing a close relationship with another PC, you need to accept that you are responsible for a portion of this player's enjoyment.

It doesn't make you their bitch. But it does mean if you want to make pretend-y fun times fun, you should have some regard for their enjoyment instead of going off on one with it being All About You.

It sounds like this RP 'buddy' didn't do this. That sucks. I suppose I'm so vehement 'cos I've been there. I hope you move on to better, more enjoyable RP with nicer, more cooperative players!

Equally, multiple characters under the same player acting nonsensically towards the same goal, attitude, or in defence of the same person/idea? Hate that. HAAATE.

[ianam1983]

This. I can't imagine an RP relationship going well with no OOC communication. Seriously, it's cooperative storytelling, where's the damn cooperation?

[imsodunwurshit]

Exactly, you state my entire rant so sufficiently in one little sentence. Thank you. *grumbles about how stressed this has all made her feel.* =D

[ianam1983]

No prob. Been there, did the smart thing, got out. *Offers hug for teh stress - platonic hug, mindyou, don't let some creepies tell you otherwise.*

[imsodunwurshit]

I accept all hugs here. I don't think that it is creepy, and thank you.

[imsodunwurshit]

It does suck. And with the cheating, in canon this muse she was playing is not hinted at as gay or bi. Now, I know we are playing our charries as aged from canon, still. My charrie is a hippie w and I see her as having a very healthy idea about sex, where she reads up on various things within its scope. I can see her trying to be with a woman at some point, but with a reason. This was just, they were so pleasuring themselves and being watched was so erotic it just happened. It wasn't even discussed with me, and the drama just came out of left field. This had been the end all of my patience with her.

And I agree, there needs to be some communication. If something truly major is going to happen, let the other person know! It affects the health and aspect of the character from then on. Plus, it just hurt me ooc since I had tried so hard to communicate, and be nice to them.

Exactly, I am not their bitch, and they are not mine. Some talking would not have killed her, but this is supposed to be a communal sort of thing. Except, I am wrong for thinking this.

I am moving on to better things. I hope I am at least. I feel a bit scarred. I hate doing something like this, I mean to rant is cool, but to have to post something like this hurt me to do. I just needed the venom out.

Ditto with that hate.

[westslide]

It does get horrible. I had a deranged player of my character's other half once. She kept on throwing out all kinds of disasters without consulting or warning me which would, of course, affect my toon. But I NEVER got consulted. The worst occasions would leave me feeling physically nauseous with the stress, from apprehension and knowing there was literally nothing I could to to stop the problems - I just had to go with it and attempt damage control.

So, yeah. Just to say, I totally get where you are, and I totally get the scarring. It gets better. There is nice RP out there! :)

[imsodunwurshit]

I know there is, and I have it in spades. Each of them present unique problems, but they are all worth my time.

Offers you hugs, and e cookies. That just sucks man!