I'm sorry but... I've been involved since it started. Now I suppose it was silly or stupid of me to jump into this before establishing whether or not that all of these goings ons are from the rootings of what happened at Otakon, or something entirely different. So, I apologize for my rash entry into this. However, I am involved now and have been for some time.
It also has a lot to do with me, for several obvious and noteworthy reasons:
1.) Stina is my friend. I haven't heard the best of things that have been going on lately between the two of you and it seems like you've done a lot of things that seem crappy in most peoples eyes. Whether or not this is true, this is the only side that I've heard. And given that this has been a common and constant thing, I'm more likely to take Stina's side on this.
2.) I don't like seeing friends fighting. Yeah, not a good reason to get involved in this but, when someone has a long standing history with another person, I do ( foolishly ) take it upon myself to try and get in the middle and say, "Hey! Work this out! Put aside your differences and act like adults!" I'm a libra, it's what I do.
3.) For more personal reasons, I've been holding a long standing grudge against you. Another stupid thing to follow through on but, you talk crap about a close friend of mine ( regardless of who you are ), I'm gonna' be pissed and you're gonna' hear about it from me because loyalty is a huge thing in my book. I didn't appreciate the way you treated Carson, AND ESPECIALLY Matt Papa. In fact, I haven't really appreciated the way you've been treating most people that we con with. It doesn't seem like people think highly of you anymore, as you've come up a couple times in people's discussions. You've lost a lot of friends, and apparently burned a lot of bridges through the past two years. So, revenge is a dumb reason to comment on your journal for but, then again, so is messing with my friends.
In short, stop being a hypocrite. I'm not saying Stina is right in doing what she is doing, but she has a right to be just as vocal as you do. However, that doesn't give you the right to turn around and say, "Stop it!" and then do it yourself.
Then again, I suppose I'm being a hypocrite, too? Anything else I can really say is don't let this ruin a friendship that at least to me, seemed like it was a pretty solid one. As you get older, you'll find your real friends are few and far between. It would suck for both of you to lose out on something awesome.
I haven't spoken to either of them about this issue of my own volition pretty much since it happened. It needs to stop being rehashed because it's obvious that it's not going to get resolved. I don't understand why it KEEPS getting brought up. I"m sorry if no one can understand that, but seriously. Do YOU understand why? Because I certainly don't.
It keeps getting brought up because the longer it goes on unresolved, the more and more shitty things you've done come into memory, and it wont die. You could always make a start in the right direction and maybe, you know, apologize or own up to your behavior.
But, seeing as you don't even have anything to say for yourself about the shitty way you treated me, and especially Carson in Japan..that says a lot. And that's nothing compared to all the shit that's been done to Megz and Stina.
Because at one point you were their best friend. For some reason now, you aren't. Thus, they are bringing it up because they want your attention and would in some way like an apology for things that they feel you have wronged them of. It also helps to stir up getting you to talk to them, not in the best way mind you, but it has gotten you to turn back and actually say something to them.
If you don't understand that then, yeah, things aren't going to get resolved.
There are much more civil ways to do things. I'm sorry, an LJ entry is not how a fight that for some reason has lasted this long is going to get resolved.
And at this point this conversation is obsolete. The two of them have blocked me on facebook, which is the epitome of immaturity in my opinion, so I really don't want to have anything further to do with thus, unfortunately.
Yeah. There are. But you only continued it by posting it on your LJ. They obviously haven't blocked you on here, so who cares about Facebook?
If you're honestly tired about all this fighting, then stop ignoring it and do something to come to some sort of resolution. Either tell them to their face, "Leave me alone, I hate you!" or go through with apologizing and stop running away with excuses of "This isn't mature. They're blocking me so what am I supposed to do?"
You've done nothing but label them as children, yet you're as much an adult as they are ( I say that even though I can't believe it ) so start acting like one, apologize to my friends, and move on. If you're gonna' bitch, then at least have a reason other than sounding like a Dashboard Confessional album. You've been given numerous chances to amend these things, and not to make a promo or anything, but you should be thankful that these people are at least keeping some connection ( negative as it may be ) with you because I can see in only a matter of months you sitting at home and saying to yourself:
Pot calling the kettle black. My apologies. But at least I'm not who I was 8 months ago. So if we're done talking about Stina and that whole situation, then I suppose I could talk about what you've done to Matt and Carson? 'Cause I'm pretty sure I could write essays on that whole situation. How about you Papa?
I'm sorry but... I've been involved since it started. Now I suppose it was silly or stupid of me to jump into this before establishing whether or not that all of these goings ons are from the rootings of what happened at Otakon, or something entirely different. So, I apologize for my rash entry into this. However, I am involved now and have been for some time.
It also has a lot to do with me, for several obvious and noteworthy reasons:
1.) Stina is my friend. I haven't heard the best of things that have been going on lately between the two of you and it seems like you've done a lot of things that seem crappy in most peoples eyes. Whether or not this is true, this is the only side that I've heard. And given that this has been a common and constant thing, I'm more likely to take Stina's side on this.
2.) I don't like seeing friends fighting. Yeah, not a good reason to get involved in this but, when someone has a long standing history with another person, I do ( foolishly ) take it upon myself to try and get in the middle and say, "Hey! Work this out! Put aside your differences and act like adults!" I'm a libra, it's what I do.
3.) For more personal reasons, I've been holding a long standing grudge against you. Another stupid thing to follow through on but, you talk crap about a close friend of mine ( regardless of who you are ), I'm gonna' be pissed and you're gonna' hear about it from me because loyalty is a huge thing in my book. I didn't appreciate the way you treated Carson, AND ESPECIALLY Matt Papa. In fact, I haven't really appreciated the way you've been treating most people that we con with. It doesn't seem like people think highly of you anymore, as you've come up a couple times in people's discussions. You've lost a lot of friends, and apparently burned a lot of bridges through the past two years. So, revenge is a dumb reason to comment on your journal for but, then again, so is messing with my friends.
In short, stop being a hypocrite. I'm not saying Stina is right in doing what she is doing, but she has a right to be just as vocal as you do. However, that doesn't give you the right to turn around and say, "Stop it!" and then do it yourself.
Then again, I suppose I'm being a hypocrite, too? Anything else I can really say is don't let this ruin a friendship that at least to me, seemed like it was a pretty solid one. As you get older, you'll find your real friends are few and far between. It would suck for both of you to lose out on something awesome.
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Here's the problem.
I haven't spoken to either of them about this issue of my own volition pretty much since it happened. It needs to stop being rehashed because it's obvious that it's not going to get resolved. I don't understand why it KEEPS getting brought up. I"m sorry if no one can understand that, but seriously. Do YOU understand why? Because I certainly don't.
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But, seeing as you don't even have anything to say for yourself about the shitty way you treated me, and especially Carson in Japan..that says a lot. And that's nothing compared to all the shit that's been done to Megz and Stina.
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Because at one point you were their best friend. For some reason now, you aren't. Thus, they are bringing it up because they want your attention and would in some way like an apology for things that they feel you have wronged them of. It also helps to stir up getting you to talk to them, not in the best way mind you, but it has gotten you to turn back and actually say something to them.
If you don't understand that then, yeah, things aren't going to get resolved.
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And at this point this conversation is obsolete. The two of them have blocked me on facebook, which is the epitome of immaturity in my opinion, so I really don't want to have anything further to do with thus, unfortunately.
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If you're honestly tired about all this fighting, then stop ignoring it and do something to come to some sort of resolution. Either tell them to their face, "Leave me alone, I hate you!" or go through with apologizing and stop running away with excuses of "This isn't mature. They're blocking me so what am I supposed to do?"
You've done nothing but label them as children, yet you're as much an adult as they are ( I say that even though I can't believe it ) so start acting like one, apologize to my friends, and move on. If you're gonna' bitch, then at least have a reason other than sounding like a Dashboard Confessional album. You've been given numerous chances to amend these things, and not to make a promo or anything, but you should be thankful that these people are at least keeping some connection ( negative as it may be ) with you because I can see in only a matter of months you sitting at home and saying to yourself:
"Fuck... What was I thinking?"
Why? Because that was me about two years ago.
Good luck with that.
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I'm done talking to you about this.
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