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Hmmm... my mind went blank for awhile.
Today was my last revision lesson for driving. Means no more guidance. Test date: 21st Sept- this coming Friday. I must believe. Thanks to Nic and fam and Rafi and some others for the confidence. And the more to come? hehe. =) InsyaAllah first attempt eh... Babe, I miss you la. = S Things okay?
Okay words are not coming to me. Hmmm.
Monday... Yesterday... Well, Mr Captain A turned up in class after being MIA for awhile. So happens Tony was just mentioning the case. Damn. Looked like he lost weight. He brought food to class but touched none? Hmmm. Anyway, so his case was discussed over break. Man, when defamation was spoken of, I brought up my first opinion and I swear my heart was racing all over again. Never mind. It's appalling to hear of the reality of things- the politics of life, not referring to his incident. I have much to learn.
Yesterday's episode... or somewhere along the line... triggered this fighter in me to write to papers. One, about how they magnify problems and not report on achievements. Here, I'm referring to the Gold medal from Silat for the Merdeka Cup in the midst of Mr Captain A's punishment. One must-be-included line will be, Is this how media will help in the growth of sports? Through highlighting negative issues and not congratulating achievements. Then there's the New Paper. I've always applauded their coverage on sports. However, it's VERY selective on reports of local sports scene. Hello, it IS a LOCAL paper right? Do correct me if I'm wrong.
Oh. We had a first post-class makan session last night. Just me, Silat champion, Edwin, Nic and Kaini. Some laughs, some thoughts, a lot of sharing. I like. =) We need transport and more of such sessions will come. =)
Hmmm I think that's about it. I need to get these done:
- list down concepts for Final Project
- propose concept for Business Plan
- comment on research lesson plans
- review weekly lectures
and maybe more when I remember. =)
Because I don't want to be misunderstood, I shall quote from another's site rather than post it here. Babe, I hope you don't mind. =) Here are interesting reads.
1. That special girl.
2. Did I marry the right person?
Those who are still single may learn something from here.
Those who are already married may take this as a guideline to improve your marriage.
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't find LASTING love. You have to make it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression the labor of love.
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can make love.
Love in marriage is indeed a decision... Not just a feeling.
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
No one falls out of love by chance it is by CHOICE."- - -
Cheers mates. It's a new day. =)
Today was my last revision lesson for driving. Means no more guidance. Test date: 21st Sept- this coming Friday. I must believe. Thanks to Nic and fam and Rafi and some others for the confidence. And the more to come? hehe. =) InsyaAllah first attempt eh... Babe, I miss you la. = S Things okay?
Okay words are not coming to me. Hmmm.
Monday... Yesterday... Well, Mr Captain A turned up in class after being MIA for awhile. So happens Tony was just mentioning the case. Damn. Looked like he lost weight. He brought food to class but touched none? Hmmm. Anyway, so his case was discussed over break. Man, when defamation was spoken of, I brought up my first opinion and I swear my heart was racing all over again. Never mind. It's appalling to hear of the reality of things- the politics of life, not referring to his incident. I have much to learn.
Yesterday's episode... or somewhere along the line... triggered this fighter in me to write to papers. One, about how they magnify problems and not report on achievements. Here, I'm referring to the Gold medal from Silat for the Merdeka Cup in the midst of Mr Captain A's punishment. One must-be-included line will be, Is this how media will help in the growth of sports? Through highlighting negative issues and not congratulating achievements. Then there's the New Paper. I've always applauded their coverage on sports. However, it's VERY selective on reports of local sports scene. Hello, it IS a LOCAL paper right? Do correct me if I'm wrong.
Oh. We had a first post-class makan session last night. Just me, Silat champion, Edwin, Nic and Kaini. Some laughs, some thoughts, a lot of sharing. I like. =) We need transport and more of such sessions will come. =)
Hmmm I think that's about it. I need to get these done:
- list down concepts for Final Project
- propose concept for Business Plan
- comment on research lesson plans
- review weekly lectures
and maybe more when I remember. =)
Because I don't want to be misunderstood, I shall quote from another's site rather than post it here. Babe, I hope you don't mind. =) Here are interesting reads.
1. That special girl.
2. Did I marry the right person?
Those who are still single may learn something from here.
Those who are already married may take this as a guideline to improve your marriage.
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered, "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't find LASTING love. You have to make it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression the labor of love.
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can make love.
Love in marriage is indeed a decision... Not just a feeling.
"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
No one falls out of love by chance it is by CHOICE."- - -
Cheers mates. It's a new day. =)