I've put an article online, with some advice for young widows. It was very therapeutic to complete it, and even if it was emotional to do it, I don't think reading it is a terrible 'downer'. Maybe it will help someone else.
http://www.squidoo.com/survivingwidowhood Rob, Lara, Bob, Sam, Mark, Dawn, Jerry and Damon, Misty, Alison. Barb ---you are all mentioned by name. Love you, and appreciate everything you've done for me. I don't forget, even if I don't see you all that often.
Love,
Tanya