Random thoughts on friendship
Recently, I have been having some thoughts on what is friendship all about.
I think as a friend, I have made much of an effort in trying to keep in contact with some people that I thought were worthwhile being frens. But recently, I realized more often than not, that I was the one who was constantly making the effort to keep in contact with some people, while the other party, more often than not, did not even bother so as to give u a msg or a call.
It got me thinking, as to whether I was trying TOO hard to maintain friendship. More often than not, people don't bother to keep in contact, cos in the first place, they never really treated you as a close friend. It's just like having a crush on another guy. You absolutely know that you like this fellow and try to keep in contact, but the other party could basically be avoiding you with all possible methods and yet you are not aware.
Suddenly, I realized.
Why bother? When people reject to talk to you not once, not twice but more than three or four times, and don't even want to initiate any chat or correspondence with you, sometimes for goodness sake, just get the fucking hint. They have no intention of maintaining the relationship with you. Stop bugging them. Just let things die off.
Sad truth of life. You can't be the good friend of everyone.
I think as a friend, I have made much of an effort in trying to keep in contact with some people that I thought were worthwhile being frens. But recently, I realized more often than not, that I was the one who was constantly making the effort to keep in contact with some people, while the other party, more often than not, did not even bother so as to give u a msg or a call.
It got me thinking, as to whether I was trying TOO hard to maintain friendship. More often than not, people don't bother to keep in contact, cos in the first place, they never really treated you as a close friend. It's just like having a crush on another guy. You absolutely know that you like this fellow and try to keep in contact, but the other party could basically be avoiding you with all possible methods and yet you are not aware.
Suddenly, I realized.
Why bother? When people reject to talk to you not once, not twice but more than three or four times, and don't even want to initiate any chat or correspondence with you, sometimes for goodness sake, just get the fucking hint. They have no intention of maintaining the relationship with you. Stop bugging them. Just let things die off.
Sad truth of life. You can't be the good friend of everyone.