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I talked to my mom who was worried about my brother because he wasn't answering her e-mails. I called my brother today. He answered, which is good. He goes through this stuff with my mom and the tone of her posts. There was this picture up on Facebook where he was drinking a glass of wine. My mother told me "I saw the picture and he was drinking alcohol. Then he took it down". So, what I get from my brother is, "Mom sent me an e-mail saying, "I saw a picture of you on Facebook and you weren't looking very well". That upset my brother because it's like, "yes, I'm aging. I don't want to be reminded of it". He doesn't like her commenting on his Facebook page. He says he hasn't synthesized his friends and his parents, and he really doesn't want to mix the two. This is really something he should tell my mother, because I'm certainly not going to, and it's going to continue. My mother is all over my Facebook page. It really doesn't bother me all that much. I had a few issues with my mother when I was growing up - mostly because when my stepfather came along, she completely abdicated discipline to him, and he was a bit of a tyrant. It was a really big thing for me until I reached my thirties, and then it was like, "yeah, that wasn't too good, but I don't live there anymore; haven't in a long time, so do I want a relationship with my mother and stepfather or not?" The answer was "yes".
I guess my brother is more private than I am, and considers my mother's FetLife behavior "snooping". About all I could do was tell my Mom that he was fine; he was just busy with work. I wonder if my brother has ever confronted my mother about the way he feels. My guess is "no" and he probably never will. Kind of annoying having to call my brother to see if he's okay because of this thing between him and Mom. I understand both sides, but there's really not much I can do. Oh, well. They'll sort it out, or they won't.
I guess my brother is more private than I am, and considers my mother's FetLife behavior "snooping". About all I could do was tell my Mom that he was fine; he was just busy with work. I wonder if my brother has ever confronted my mother about the way he feels. My guess is "no" and he probably never will. Kind of annoying having to call my brother to see if he's okay because of this thing between him and Mom. I understand both sides, but there's really not much I can do. Oh, well. They'll sort it out, or they won't.