On inner peace
A good friend sent me the following in an amusing email.
By following the simple advice I read in an article I have finally found inner peace... the article read:
"The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you've started."
So I looked around the house to see all the things I had started but hadn't finished, and before I left the house this morning I finished off a bottle of red wine, a bottle of white wine, the Bailey's, Kahlua, and wild Turkey, the Prozac, some valium, some cheese cake and a box of chocolates,
You have no freaking idea how good I feel!!!
Somehow I think this second email that I recieved around the same time may be a bit more helpful in finding contentment than the first. I've gotten it before and I'll probably get it again. It makes me think each time. Do I actually do any of these things? And if not, why not?
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Rarely, unless I believe for some reason that they deserve more.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as Important as any other.
Well, I messed that one up the first time. Should I venture there again lets home I do it right.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
This one I think I have covered.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Every time.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Hmm. I tend to hang my head. Shame? Guilt? We'll work on that.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
So, I've got... what? About five months to go?
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
How could I not. Every time I see you it's like the first time.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
It's difficult. Especially not laughing at my own. Well, not the dreams specifically but the idea of them ever coming true.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
Hurt is right. And after the first time being hurt I'm scared to make another attempt at it. But I am in love, and deeply and passionately is the only way it can be done in my experience. At least with real love... true love. So, cross your fingers or better yet... put your hand in mine. Here's to hoping.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Good idea. It's been a while since I've had any major 'disagreements' with anyone. I hope I wasn't too much of a bitch.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
Sounds easy but it's so easy to judge people on so many different things, appearance, where they live, their friends. Lets try for not being judgmental at all. Difficult, but worth the effort I'm sure.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
Got the quick thinking down usually. Does not talking at all count as talking slowly?
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
Ah, I do this. Though, sometimes I ask simply because I'm curious as to why they want to know... whatever.
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
I know this very well. The love I seem to be willing to risk a lot for. Maybe I should work on the achievements part a bit.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
It's almost involuntary.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Depends on what I'm losing at. I try to learn from everything. Not all experiences are clear cut wins or losses.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
I agree completely with the third R, which can make the second difficult at times. Respect is meant to be earned. The first I have at times, though not often enough I think.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
I've not an enemy that I am aware of and all good friends are still good friends. Though I have to wonder what if one isn't sure that the friendship is so great anymore?
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Difficult. I do try. Often I won't attempt anything if I believe there is a chance of failure. Perfectionist? Fraidy cat? You choose.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Not unless I've reason to smile. The good ones can tell when you're faking it too.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
I already feel alone. Do I really want to be more alone? Though it might be a good idea, making it my choice. Like leaving a crowded room when nobody's talking to you.
Lets add another one just for kicks.
TWENTY-TWO. Finish all the things you've started.
It's a long way back before you can move forward. Wish me luck.
By following the simple advice I read in an article I have finally found inner peace... the article read:
"The way to achieve inner peace is to finish all the things you've started."
So I looked around the house to see all the things I had started but hadn't finished, and before I left the house this morning I finished off a bottle of red wine, a bottle of white wine, the Bailey's, Kahlua, and wild Turkey, the Prozac, some valium, some cheese cake and a box of chocolates,
You have no freaking idea how good I feel!!!
Somehow I think this second email that I recieved around the same time may be a bit more helpful in finding contentment than the first. I've gotten it before and I'll probably get it again. It makes me think each time. Do I actually do any of these things? And if not, why not?
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Rarely, unless I believe for some reason that they deserve more.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as Important as any other.
Well, I messed that one up the first time. Should I venture there again lets home I do it right.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
This one I think I have covered.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Every time.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
Hmm. I tend to hang my head. Shame? Guilt? We'll work on that.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
So, I've got... what? About five months to go?
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
How could I not. Every time I see you it's like the first time.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
It's difficult. Especially not laughing at my own. Well, not the dreams specifically but the idea of them ever coming true.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
Hurt is right. And after the first time being hurt I'm scared to make another attempt at it. But I am in love, and deeply and passionately is the only way it can be done in my experience. At least with real love... true love. So, cross your fingers or better yet... put your hand in mine. Here's to hoping.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
Good idea. It's been a while since I've had any major 'disagreements' with anyone. I hope I wasn't too much of a bitch.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
Sounds easy but it's so easy to judge people on so many different things, appearance, where they live, their friends. Lets try for not being judgmental at all. Difficult, but worth the effort I'm sure.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
Got the quick thinking down usually. Does not talking at all count as talking slowly?
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
Ah, I do this. Though, sometimes I ask simply because I'm curious as to why they want to know... whatever.
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
I know this very well. The love I seem to be willing to risk a lot for. Maybe I should work on the achievements part a bit.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
It's almost involuntary.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Depends on what I'm losing at. I try to learn from everything. Not all experiences are clear cut wins or losses.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
I agree completely with the third R, which can make the second difficult at times. Respect is meant to be earned. The first I have at times, though not often enough I think.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
I've not an enemy that I am aware of and all good friends are still good friends. Though I have to wonder what if one isn't sure that the friendship is so great anymore?
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
Difficult. I do try. Often I won't attempt anything if I believe there is a chance of failure. Perfectionist? Fraidy cat? You choose.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Not unless I've reason to smile. The good ones can tell when you're faking it too.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
I already feel alone. Do I really want to be more alone? Though it might be a good idea, making it my choice. Like leaving a crowded room when nobody's talking to you.
Lets add another one just for kicks.
TWENTY-TWO. Finish all the things you've started.
It's a long way back before you can move forward. Wish me luck.