Not All Women
There used to be a dive-y bar on the outskirts of Central Square that I didn't like to walk past. It wasn't a dive bar like the ones my friends and I liked, where the diviness was sort of cultivated and semi-ironic. It was a serious dive, for serious drinkers, and every time I passed it one of the patrons would say something to me that I didn't
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I liked that one metaphor going around tumblr recently trying to help guys understand what it's like to be on the receiving end of that: "you know those smiling pushy folks, like trying to get you to do a lotion sample of a phone thing at the carts at the mall? Well imagine they were nearly everywhere, and the product they were selling was dick".
I wonder if they're related to the dudes I see evidence of in women's OKC profiles, evidence of men who just blast out email to anyone with a decent looking profile picture, using a wide net approach and sending shirtless (or pantsless) photos to any woman at the drop of a hat. It's kind of weird to be in some ways the same category as those guys, with some of the same goals, even as I hope I'm more finessed and generally a better human.
Anyway, weighing in on the "why a respite?" question is probably a lose-lose blend of either affirming self-perceived flaws or semi-inappropriately implying attraction and I don't feel I have much insight into the issue anyway. So I'll just say, I wish the world provided a better environment, especially for women.
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