love and ambition make strange bedfellows.
so i've come to learn.
my ex-spouse's work hours made him physically unavailable half the time, the 2nd gf felt guilty for having spent evenings meeting clients during our couple time, and lately after 3.5yrs, the last gf felt she had to finish up her education and find a job before we could proceed with the r/s.
call me a foolish romantic, but i've always believed you could accommodate and compromise. love to me is a safety-net, the fall back cushion when your day gets rough. it shouldn't be the thing that comes in between your partner's work/ambition, rather the thing which inspires and makes you want to work harder. that is the premise which i lived my career with whomever i was with at the time. i knew that no matter how ridiculous the work-day was, i could come home to someone's loving arms, let him/her wrap me in sanity and solace so that everything made sense again.
anyway the idealist in me has left because that premise is pure fiction as long as it isn't mutually agreed upon. and when peeps ask me why we broke up, i'd tell them she was seeing someone else named Ambition.
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it's been an intense but rewarding work week -- 4 lectures, 2 tutorials, with equipment failure and admin stacks thrown in between haha. my contract terms have been re-negotiated and are ideal so hooray for vacation funds. bugbears like medical exam and photopass must be sorted out first. i shall become a fulltime civil serpent!
my ex-spouse's work hours made him physically unavailable half the time, the 2nd gf felt guilty for having spent evenings meeting clients during our couple time, and lately after 3.5yrs, the last gf felt she had to finish up her education and find a job before we could proceed with the r/s.
call me a foolish romantic, but i've always believed you could accommodate and compromise. love to me is a safety-net, the fall back cushion when your day gets rough. it shouldn't be the thing that comes in between your partner's work/ambition, rather the thing which inspires and makes you want to work harder. that is the premise which i lived my career with whomever i was with at the time. i knew that no matter how ridiculous the work-day was, i could come home to someone's loving arms, let him/her wrap me in sanity and solace so that everything made sense again.
anyway the idealist in me has left because that premise is pure fiction as long as it isn't mutually agreed upon. and when peeps ask me why we broke up, i'd tell them she was seeing someone else named Ambition.
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it's been an intense but rewarding work week -- 4 lectures, 2 tutorials, with equipment failure and admin stacks thrown in between haha. my contract terms have been re-negotiated and are ideal so hooray for vacation funds. bugbears like medical exam and photopass must be sorted out first. i shall become a fulltime civil serpent!