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[avroshi]

My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch. My sister is a bitch

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[gorillawarfare]

But really I didn't want an explanation....because whatever the explanation is won't justify hitting someone in my opinion. That's not because I'm unrealistic or think that anyone who hits another person is automatically a bad person. My reasoning is that there is always some explanation for an event, but never a justification. A justification is usually applied to a situation where an action was reasonable or necessary, not where you're simply angry.

And do know that I am often the angriest when someone tries to control me as well....that's not just you in that respect. And I can also completely understand being angry at someone in large part because I view a person's actions at any given moment in a much broader context which takes into account motivation, past actions, etc.

However, here's the problem I see with what you did. Let's get past the fact that you hit your sister and look at the broader picture, as you seemed to do. You saw her wanting to go home then as an attempt to get her way one more time....to control you. Well, she did get her way because she got a response from you. She may have been crying as a result, but she got us pissed off at you. She stayed relatively calm the entire time while you eventually snapped. While most people would be able to understand why she was calm and you snapped, there's still an emotional aspect to the situation which makes you look weak. While you say you don't care about what others think, you evidently do care to some extent, because otherwise you wouldn't have made a livejournal post about the incident, even if it mostly reiterates the fact that you don't care. Actions speak louder than words, remember.

So in essence, you look stupid and abusive, even if she was emotionally abusing you in a sense. Unfortunately for you, most people don't even care about emotional abuse or acknowledge its validity, so there's not really any visible significant "justification" for you to be hitting your sister in the eyes of most people.

And you're right....in many respects, the bonds that form friendships are frail. What you need to realize is a friend can criticize you for a good purpose, and that doesn't mean they're any less of a friend simply because they disagree with something you've done.

Also, I'll reiterate what I said earlier: If you want to do one thing to rise above the influence of your dad and of your sister, you won't hit her or spaz out when you think she's trying to control you. Why not? Because when you do, you look weak and you've lost control of yourself to the point where even if you're not consenting to what they ask for, you're still letting them control your response. In the future, I'd advise you to ignore her, as hard as that might be.

[avroshi]

I wasn't justifying what I did, just giving an explaination as to why.

Some peoplea opinions, yes I will admit, I care about to an extent, but some of those who were there, shit is worth more to me.

And as I said earlier, same concept as a spanking..."teaching through pain" or "getting your point across in a less subtle way."

Now, yes, criticiznig what I did for a good purpose is all good and great, and I thank you for that. but some thing can't be explained, or justified, in the extent needed for the kind of critic I think you are refering to. But all you can comment on is what YOU percieve in an event and not what my aspect of it is. Man, I can't wait to see what comments I get at school on monday, and how many people I get to tell "fuck off" as well as how many people are going to try to take this into their own hands when it really isn't any of their business.

There are too many internal concepts of this situation even for me to fully understand.

I don't feel like typing anymore about this.