Life Patterns
Many years ago I started to notice the patterns in life. (I know I was a late bloomer.) What I mean is that I started to understand them. I’m not talking about the patterns of nature, although that could have been what made things click for me. What I am talking about are the patterns that life takes on, the ones we have some control over.
I have seen people go in circles for years wondering why things always seem to turn out the same. They constantly blame others, never willing to take on the responsibility themselves. Never growing because they cannot see that maybe, maybe they could be at fault. There comes a time in every ones life where they say “hey, maybe its me”. Some will open their eyes and change/growth will occur. Some will just say, “no, it couldn’t be me.”
Everyone is given the opportunity to change and grow. But only they can make that transformation. Only they can break that pattern of their life.
When I was 13 my mother was going through a bad divorce, money was tight and we were struggling big time. My mother had a dream she told me about, I don’t think she realize what effect that dream was to have on the rest of my life. She dreamt we were at McDonalds and I wanted a value meal, but that wouldn’t leave enough money for my mother to eat. I don’t know if in the dream I didn’t care or if I had not known we were that poor. Either way I insisted on the meal and my mother didn’t eat. I realized that day how selfish I had been, always demanding and not caring about anyone else. It all changed at that point.
I took a long look inside myself and didn’t like what I saw, so I changed. I know it sounds like it was so easy, and strangely it was, I was a different person, then again I was 13, everything is easier when you are young. I thought more about what my mother was going through and less about what I needed. That day I started putting others before me. For good or bad, I am still that way to this day.
When something in your life repeats often it’s time to look within yourself and ask why? What is the same about all these occurrences? What can I do to stop these events from happening? What can I do to make things work out the way I truly want them to?
Most importantly we must learn to listen to ourselves and be honest. I used to lie to myself, hell I still do about some things. It’s very easy to blame others for the things I have done. I had a bad childhood, I was abused, and I was unloved. All those things are in the past. I am learning to let it go. I’ve learned how to break my patterns, that doesn’t mean I always manage to do it; it just means I am always work towards that goal.
Lorien said it best the other day, my life pattern has become like a spiral staircase. Every time I make it around I am ascending. I come across the same challenges, but I manage to over come and move up and on. One day I may reach the top. I hope that others can find that staircase in their lives and also move up and on.
I have seen people go in circles for years wondering why things always seem to turn out the same. They constantly blame others, never willing to take on the responsibility themselves. Never growing because they cannot see that maybe, maybe they could be at fault. There comes a time in every ones life where they say “hey, maybe its me”. Some will open their eyes and change/growth will occur. Some will just say, “no, it couldn’t be me.”
Everyone is given the opportunity to change and grow. But only they can make that transformation. Only they can break that pattern of their life.
When I was 13 my mother was going through a bad divorce, money was tight and we were struggling big time. My mother had a dream she told me about, I don’t think she realize what effect that dream was to have on the rest of my life. She dreamt we were at McDonalds and I wanted a value meal, but that wouldn’t leave enough money for my mother to eat. I don’t know if in the dream I didn’t care or if I had not known we were that poor. Either way I insisted on the meal and my mother didn’t eat. I realized that day how selfish I had been, always demanding and not caring about anyone else. It all changed at that point.
I took a long look inside myself and didn’t like what I saw, so I changed. I know it sounds like it was so easy, and strangely it was, I was a different person, then again I was 13, everything is easier when you are young. I thought more about what my mother was going through and less about what I needed. That day I started putting others before me. For good or bad, I am still that way to this day.
When something in your life repeats often it’s time to look within yourself and ask why? What is the same about all these occurrences? What can I do to stop these events from happening? What can I do to make things work out the way I truly want them to?
Most importantly we must learn to listen to ourselves and be honest. I used to lie to myself, hell I still do about some things. It’s very easy to blame others for the things I have done. I had a bad childhood, I was abused, and I was unloved. All those things are in the past. I am learning to let it go. I’ve learned how to break my patterns, that doesn’t mean I always manage to do it; it just means I am always work towards that goal.
Lorien said it best the other day, my life pattern has become like a spiral staircase. Every time I make it around I am ascending. I come across the same challenges, but I manage to over come and move up and on. One day I may reach the top. I hope that others can find that staircase in their lives and also move up and on.