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draion in average_homos

"The GBF Phenomenon..."

Jul 14, 2010 17:08

I wish this community were a lot more active.

I couldn't help but think about a certain post left in the fashin community not too long ago, about gay best friends being a "must-have accessory" for many teenage girls (as well as women).

( OMG, watching Glee makes me wish I had a guy like Kurt in my life )

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unkaaron July 14 2010, 23:10:52 UTC

Even when I was a young and pretty little gay (ha!), I never found myself in relationships with *those* types of girls (or even guys) because it never interested me to be with people who seemed that shallow or incomplete that they needed any type of 'accessory' to complete them, much less refer to a human being as an accessory.

In high school I had a lot of friends who were girls, same in college and beyond, I always found myself with the girls. Even now I almost always get a fast connection or form fast friends with females instead of men. I don't consider myself feminine, nor am I flamboyant... I just connect better w/ women.

I do make friends with men (straight or otherwise), it just seems to take a lot longer.

draion July 14 2010, 23:23:24 UTC

Are you me? Seriously.

In high school, I had my close friends, and for the sake of being shallow and typecasting, I'll say that we could have fit the 'oddball' clause of the high school clique collection, because we didn't care to judge others either. I was lucky not to become close to such insecure people that treat other human beings as accessories or token friends.

Like you, I am not very feminine or flamboyant, but the connection comes across so much more quickly with women. I just love them, because, on the whole, they seem to be more communicative. Also like you, I make friends with guys, but it's so hard to find the ones who aren't so shrouded by their masculinity to actually let someone get to their inner core, let alone another guy. And gay guys, they're not easy to find... at least, the ones I can connect with. :|

Thanks for sharing! Everything I went on about had to do with persona... not image, which so many people unfortunately make priority when it comes to their friends, as this article very clearly shows.

toxic_swamp July 15 2010, 08:13:16 UTC

guys, im the same ( ... )

draion July 15 2010, 12:03:16 UTC

sometimes i wish i was born without a brain that thinks like mine and i could be a happy lil camper like most other gays!

Tell me about it! Why do I have to want a fulfilling, lasting, monogamous relationship? Why must we want full-on love instead of a fuck buddy!? We're destined to be alone forever because of it~

As for starting to feel a bit more left out with your friends, I'm sorry to hear that. I've some close girls that are in very long-lasting relationships, and I can see them all being engaged about a year from now, or less. Watch them ask me to be the flower girl. An offer I would only very humbly accept.

You seem to have a little bit of a defeatist attitude about connecting guys as well as you do with girls, and I don't think you should just let it go. There are a lot of good guys out there, and for as hard as they are to find [offline], they're definitely there. I guess it takes patience.

toxic_swamp July 17 2010, 02:34:03 UTC

yes, you're right. slightly defeatist. however, with age comes wisdom? haha i checked your profile and saw you are 18 - things are fantastic then. i just caught up w mates from then last night (we're all 25 now! :\) and talked about all the changes (and things which haven't). but trust me, things slowly change. everyone moves on/away and relationships shift ( ... )

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