The time may seem right, but I would avoid coming out during the holidays. Too many other stresses, you don't need resentment added into the mix of tensions.
Only you can judge how your fam will react, it may help to test them out with things, talking about a recent LGBT news event, an out celebrity, etc to kind of sense their judgments.
Also consider the fact that, if you are dependent on them for lodging, etc, those are things that you can lose if things go terribly awry.
Personally, I waited until I was on a break from college, though I'd wanted to come out since I was around 16. I wanted to ensure that I would be able to move to a big city and get out of the small town I'd grown up in. I was afraid if I told my parents, they would make me stay home so they could control me/keep me from being a big homo.
At first my parents were angry I told them, then glad they knew, then upset that I hadn't said it earlier so they could have known me better. Don't expect any one sole reaction, and be prepared for their response to evolve.
Only you can judge how your fam will react, it may help to test them out with things, talking about a recent LGBT news event, an out celebrity, etc to kind of sense their judgments.
Also consider the fact that, if you are dependent on them for lodging, etc, those are things that you can lose if things go terribly awry.
Personally, I waited until I was on a break from college, though I'd wanted to come out since I was around 16. I wanted to ensure that I would be able to move to a big city and get out of the small town I'd grown up in. I was afraid if I told my parents, they would make me stay home so they could control me/keep me from being a big homo.
At first my parents were angry I told them, then glad they knew, then upset that I hadn't said it earlier so they could have known me better. Don't expect any one sole reaction, and be prepared for their response to evolve.
best of luck!
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