anxiety and wedding plans.
This has got to be a record. Three posts in one day. Lots on my mind, I guess. Homework's all done, fish are cleaned from the weekend, talked to my mom and my grandma both about Wy-Co Lake and the wedding plans.
And I talked to mom more about the wedding plans, or the lack thereof.
I got not a damn thing as far as venue is concerned. Not a damn thing as far as minister etc is concerned. All I know is weddings are expensive, and they shouldn't be, and that my father is not going to pay for it, nor did he offer, will he offer, or even help pay for it. He doesn't like Roy.
We talked about getting married at Civil War Ranch in Carthage, but it's expensive. The pond they have on their property is strictly catch-and-release, which didn't appeal to Roy, because apparently he wants to go fishing right after the ceremony.
Then we talked about getting married at Prairie State Park in Mindenmines. But the majority of my family lives in Kansas City, or the surrounding area, and would not drive 6+ hours to come to a wedding.
Then we talked about getting married at Wy-Co Lake Park at the same shelter we're going to have the family reunion at (not the same day, though!). That is, until, I looked at the price for a marriage license in Wyandotte Co KS and my jaw dropped. $85.50??? When even non-residence folk can buy a MO license for $58? Screw. That.
Mom suggested that Roy and I possibly marry at the Justice of the Peace here in Joplin, and then have the reception at the family reunion. I'd thought about that for a minute, tossed and toyed with the idea, but I don't really care for it. Though I do appreciate her suggestion, it just doesn't settle well with me to have a birthday, a family reunion and a wedding reception all the same time and day. And really, the whole notion is selfish. Why would you have a wedding reception during a family reunion? I could see the birthday being co-incidental, but really... nah. I'm not going to do that. It would be seen as uppity and foolish.
I think I need to make a phone call to grandma. Maybe her pastor could marry Roy and I? Roy and I don't have a home church anymore, and Roy isn't entirely comfortable with my previous pastor marrying us. And really, her pastor was once mine when I was living in KC, so... there is that. Or... I could get a hold of pastor Greg, or even my old choir director at Grace Bible Church in KC and see if one of them would be willing to do it.
There are always options.
And I talked to mom more about the wedding plans, or the lack thereof.
I got not a damn thing as far as venue is concerned. Not a damn thing as far as minister etc is concerned. All I know is weddings are expensive, and they shouldn't be, and that my father is not going to pay for it, nor did he offer, will he offer, or even help pay for it. He doesn't like Roy.
We talked about getting married at Civil War Ranch in Carthage, but it's expensive. The pond they have on their property is strictly catch-and-release, which didn't appeal to Roy, because apparently he wants to go fishing right after the ceremony.
Then we talked about getting married at Prairie State Park in Mindenmines. But the majority of my family lives in Kansas City, or the surrounding area, and would not drive 6+ hours to come to a wedding.
Then we talked about getting married at Wy-Co Lake Park at the same shelter we're going to have the family reunion at (not the same day, though!). That is, until, I looked at the price for a marriage license in Wyandotte Co KS and my jaw dropped. $85.50??? When even non-residence folk can buy a MO license for $58? Screw. That.
Mom suggested that Roy and I possibly marry at the Justice of the Peace here in Joplin, and then have the reception at the family reunion. I'd thought about that for a minute, tossed and toyed with the idea, but I don't really care for it. Though I do appreciate her suggestion, it just doesn't settle well with me to have a birthday, a family reunion and a wedding reception all the same time and day. And really, the whole notion is selfish. Why would you have a wedding reception during a family reunion? I could see the birthday being co-incidental, but really... nah. I'm not going to do that. It would be seen as uppity and foolish.
I think I need to make a phone call to grandma. Maybe her pastor could marry Roy and I? Roy and I don't have a home church anymore, and Roy isn't entirely comfortable with my previous pastor marrying us. And really, her pastor was once mine when I was living in KC, so... there is that. Or... I could get a hold of pastor Greg, or even my old choir director at Grace Bible Church in KC and see if one of them would be willing to do it.
There are always options.