On sluts.
There's a blog I frequent that's about the life of a young man studying at the University of Windsor. It seems rather popular. I myself can't tear my eyes away, I admit. The blogger is a very good writer. This is pretty much the only thing I like about him, though.
Part of the reason why the blog is so popular is because he blogs frequently about his sexcapades. Most of the time, he doesn't actually have sex with the hoardes of women he pursues (or who pursue him, depending on whether you want to believe him or not). He is blatently disrespectful of them in his blog. He recognises their low self-esteem and exploits it. He seems to just love female attention.
The thing that strikes me about this blogger is that he's very quick to dismiss these women. He really doesn't have any interest in a lot of them. He seems somewhat bewildered by the fact that some of them come to be attached to him, that they are upset when he gives them the brush off.
In our culture, the more sexually open a woman is, the more acceptable it is for her to be abused, ignored, neglected. There are no end of examples for this, but a few are
-prostitutes, who are frequently dismissed if they report cases of rape
-English women: in England, men who rape women with whom they previously had consensual sex get shorter sentences than men who rape women with whom they've never had sex
-First Nations women, who have for centuries been depicted as morally unclean and promiscuous (by whose standards, exactly? oh, right, the white men who still want to rape them...), receive far less attention from our criminal justice system when abused or raped or killed
This blogger subscribes to the same mentality. He may not beat or rape these women, but he certainly thinks nothing of leaving them in his sexually-charged dust, nor does he understand that they actually have feelings, too. Imagine: a woman can be hurt even if she did make out with you in a bar within a few minutes of meeting you, even if she does wear low-cut tops, even if she dances suggestively with you and three other women.
I think this proves the failing of our so-called "sexual revolution". Men can continue to have sex without guilt, only now they have more of it. And while some of us women may be enjoying sexual pleasure on a more regular basis (assuming their partners understand female anatomy, which is likely not the case seeing as our culture seems to do nothing to teach men about women's bodies, except that breasts are also called "hooters", "tits", "boobs", "boobies", and "funbags"), the shame and disrespect is still there.
Part of the reason why the blog is so popular is because he blogs frequently about his sexcapades. Most of the time, he doesn't actually have sex with the hoardes of women he pursues (or who pursue him, depending on whether you want to believe him or not). He is blatently disrespectful of them in his blog. He recognises their low self-esteem and exploits it. He seems to just love female attention.
The thing that strikes me about this blogger is that he's very quick to dismiss these women. He really doesn't have any interest in a lot of them. He seems somewhat bewildered by the fact that some of them come to be attached to him, that they are upset when he gives them the brush off.
In our culture, the more sexually open a woman is, the more acceptable it is for her to be abused, ignored, neglected. There are no end of examples for this, but a few are
-prostitutes, who are frequently dismissed if they report cases of rape
-English women: in England, men who rape women with whom they previously had consensual sex get shorter sentences than men who rape women with whom they've never had sex
-First Nations women, who have for centuries been depicted as morally unclean and promiscuous (by whose standards, exactly? oh, right, the white men who still want to rape them...), receive far less attention from our criminal justice system when abused or raped or killed
This blogger subscribes to the same mentality. He may not beat or rape these women, but he certainly thinks nothing of leaving them in his sexually-charged dust, nor does he understand that they actually have feelings, too. Imagine: a woman can be hurt even if she did make out with you in a bar within a few minutes of meeting you, even if she does wear low-cut tops, even if she dances suggestively with you and three other women.
I think this proves the failing of our so-called "sexual revolution". Men can continue to have sex without guilt, only now they have more of it. And while some of us women may be enjoying sexual pleasure on a more regular basis (assuming their partners understand female anatomy, which is likely not the case seeing as our culture seems to do nothing to teach men about women's bodies, except that breasts are also called "hooters", "tits", "boobs", "boobies", and "funbags"), the shame and disrespect is still there.