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It amazes me how a girl can have a really great guy and yet she wants more. It astounds me that she has no clue what she has, and how she thinks every guy is going to have the patience and value her guy does plus bonus attributes. It amazes me that she would give up everything she has to expereince what single girls want to get out of...the slime pool. I know not all guys are scum. But I have learned through my years that you never find the "perfect" relationship. Every person has faults, everyone has different personalities and this can cause clashes. Every relationship has problems, but how the couple handles the problems is what determines success or failure. I understand how she feels. Being so young and being in such a serious relationship. I too have dreamt of having the carefree single girl curse of kissing all the guys you want and being all flirty. But I know that isn't reality. I know that "those" guys don't have what I really want. Me and Jeff are very different. We hold different interests. He LOVES movies, I see a movie every once in a while. I am a travel addict, Jeff likes to stay at home. But, together we have enjoyed and experienced interests different than our our own and have even at times enjoyed them. I have seen a LOT of movies over the past 7 years, and I like having some pop culture knowledge. Jeff now enjoys a good bbq hot dog. We both have learned that we can play tennis together, and to my surprise Jeff is better than me, and too his surprise I am not that competivite at it. I have dreamt of being the flirty girl, wondered if there is a guy with a million dollars waiting to spoil me. But I know that finding a guy with the attributes that I desire plus money is going to be hard. I have yet to meet more than 2 guys that don't like to go get trashed with their friends, will stay home and take care of a sick girlfriend instead of going out with his buddies to a stipclub, who can respect me, tolerate me, and enjoy my quirks as Jeff does. I have struggled a long time with not having a rich guy, but I find so many other things that make it worth it. Watching Enough was a wake-up call to me. I would rather have a fun, caring, loving husband than money any day. I don't understand how someone could be so willing to throw that all away just for a few months of flirtation. I don't think she really knows what's out there. I think she is living in an illusion- reality is hardly the way she thinks it will be.