What's so amazing about really deep thoughts?
First of all:
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1. I'll respond with something random about you.
2. I'll tell you what song/movie reminds me of you.
3. I'll pick a flavor of jello to wrestle with you in.
4. I'll say something that only makes sense to you and me.
5. I'll tell you my first/clearest memory of you.
6. I'll tell you what animal you remind me of.
7. I'll ask you something that I've always wondered about you.
8. If I do this for you, you must post this on your journal. You MUST. It is written.
Yesterday was a Good Day (even though my translation-class was cancelled, go figure!) I don't know why, I just felt generally Good and Chipper, even though I was pretty tired from the lack of sleep the previous night. My dancing lesson was brilliant, we did some more foxtrot and English waltz and oh my word, it's awesomeness like whoa. I love learning new things and discovering it actually works, that our legs don't get entangled or something.
Last night in bed me & Thijs had a very Profound Conversation that lasted about two hours, hahah. It started with me saying that men look at women from a sexual perspective, and that when they see a woman that strikes their fancy or that sparks their interest, they'll approach her and talk to her ONLY because that brings him closer to his ultimate goal: having sex with her. So, the main object of communication is sex, if you strip it down to the bone. They might be genuinely interested in a woman, and sure, they might enjoy the talking, but talking alone is not satsifactorily enough. Communication itself does not gratify the man's desires because he will always want more: sex. Of course, this is just plain generalization, but I really think (most) men think like that. And I think most women do, too, although I think women can draw more satisfaction from a conversation than a man, just because they don't see it merely as a way to get to what they really want. Because sex is mostly not all a woman wants from a man.
It's interesting. It fascinates me. I took the example of C. (and Lena Olin) yesterday to prove my point, because both Thijs and me have a soft spot for her. I said he was looking at her from a sexual perspective, and that when he looked at her all he could think about was that he wanted to have sex with her. Which he didn't deny. On the other hand, all I want is to be in her presence and have her attention, and just that is satisfactorily enough. Thijs couldn't understand this, and I couldn't understand how he could have such sexual thoughts about someone so nice. I don't know, I feel that it is disrespectful and degrading to think about genuinely nice people in a sexual way. I feel that it taints whatever it is that made me admire/respect them in the first place. I don't know why I feel this way, and I couldn't quite explain as well. But I was wondering if someone here shares that idea?
I can't quite figure out if I feel exactly the same way about men in this case. I think I look at men in a more sexual way than at women, but still, when I'm in love with someone and don't have that someone I always feel guilty, if you will, to think about them sexually.
Me: "You can't have horny thoughts about nice people!"
Thijs: "But nice people can fuck too, you know?"
Hahaha. It's so funny that there's such an enormous difference between men and women. I wonder how it's possible that there's still a trace of that primitivity in us, after all this time.
There was more I wanted to say, but I have to go to work in a bit. So to make a long story short I'll just pose the question here that was fascinating me: Why is it that people desire to have power over someone?
If you have someting to say about this all, shout. I'm curious.
Comment on this post and...
1. I'll respond with something random about you.
2. I'll tell you what song/movie reminds me of you.
3. I'll pick a flavor of jello to wrestle with you in.
4. I'll say something that only makes sense to you and me.
5. I'll tell you my first/clearest memory of you.
6. I'll tell you what animal you remind me of.
7. I'll ask you something that I've always wondered about you.
8. If I do this for you, you must post this on your journal. You MUST. It is written.
Yesterday was a Good Day (even though my translation-class was cancelled, go figure!) I don't know why, I just felt generally Good and Chipper, even though I was pretty tired from the lack of sleep the previous night. My dancing lesson was brilliant, we did some more foxtrot and English waltz and oh my word, it's awesomeness like whoa. I love learning new things and discovering it actually works, that our legs don't get entangled or something.
Last night in bed me & Thijs had a very Profound Conversation that lasted about two hours, hahah. It started with me saying that men look at women from a sexual perspective, and that when they see a woman that strikes their fancy or that sparks their interest, they'll approach her and talk to her ONLY because that brings him closer to his ultimate goal: having sex with her. So, the main object of communication is sex, if you strip it down to the bone. They might be genuinely interested in a woman, and sure, they might enjoy the talking, but talking alone is not satsifactorily enough. Communication itself does not gratify the man's desires because he will always want more: sex. Of course, this is just plain generalization, but I really think (most) men think like that. And I think most women do, too, although I think women can draw more satisfaction from a conversation than a man, just because they don't see it merely as a way to get to what they really want. Because sex is mostly not all a woman wants from a man.
It's interesting. It fascinates me. I took the example of C. (and Lena Olin) yesterday to prove my point, because both Thijs and me have a soft spot for her. I said he was looking at her from a sexual perspective, and that when he looked at her all he could think about was that he wanted to have sex with her. Which he didn't deny. On the other hand, all I want is to be in her presence and have her attention, and just that is satisfactorily enough. Thijs couldn't understand this, and I couldn't understand how he could have such sexual thoughts about someone so nice. I don't know, I feel that it is disrespectful and degrading to think about genuinely nice people in a sexual way. I feel that it taints whatever it is that made me admire/respect them in the first place. I don't know why I feel this way, and I couldn't quite explain as well. But I was wondering if someone here shares that idea?
I can't quite figure out if I feel exactly the same way about men in this case. I think I look at men in a more sexual way than at women, but still, when I'm in love with someone and don't have that someone I always feel guilty, if you will, to think about them sexually.
Me: "You can't have horny thoughts about nice people!"
Thijs: "But nice people can fuck too, you know?"
Hahaha. It's so funny that there's such an enormous difference between men and women. I wonder how it's possible that there's still a trace of that primitivity in us, after all this time.
There was more I wanted to say, but I have to go to work in a bit. So to make a long story short I'll just pose the question here that was fascinating me: Why is it that people desire to have power over someone?
If you have someting to say about this all, shout. I'm curious.