You can't judge me, because I judge you!
Look, i'm gonna tell you something. I judge you. Well not YOU specifically (but yeah i do that too) rather you in a very, very general sense. And i don't feel like i'm unique in this personality trait because, really, that's kind of how we're wired. The problem comes in when you act on the snap judgments you make rather than allowing the person or thing that you are judging a chance to redeem (or damn) themselves.
This is why people spend money to get nice haircuts, get their eyebrows waxed, buy expensive clothes. We're all aware that we're being judged all the time. It's why there's a graphic designer being paid scads of money to design book covers because we DO judge books by their covers. Otherwise they'd all just be blank covers with the title written in black, 24 point Times New Roman. Am i right?
So when i see a clearly middle-aged woman working a mini skirt, low cut blouse, UGGS, and a freshly flat-ironed haircut i do make a snap judgment about her. And i want to help her into clothes that will make her look sexy and available while also being age appropriate and not so bleeding desperate. When i see someone driving a Dodge Viper, i automatically assume they're a douchebag. When i see someone at the grocery store buying loads of sausages i assume they have pretty stinky farts. Now there's plenty of times that i make that snap judgment and then immediately pull it back, realize that i'm being unkind or judging far more harshly than need be. And i always, always, make sure to keep my mind open enough to change my initial impression once i've opened the book, talked to the person, or taken a bite.
Crap, reading back this makes me sound like an unbelievable bitch. I'm not. Not really. Just kinda. But come on, try though everyone might to deny it, we all do this, i'm just ready to admit it.
This is why people spend money to get nice haircuts, get their eyebrows waxed, buy expensive clothes. We're all aware that we're being judged all the time. It's why there's a graphic designer being paid scads of money to design book covers because we DO judge books by their covers. Otherwise they'd all just be blank covers with the title written in black, 24 point Times New Roman. Am i right?
So when i see a clearly middle-aged woman working a mini skirt, low cut blouse, UGGS, and a freshly flat-ironed haircut i do make a snap judgment about her. And i want to help her into clothes that will make her look sexy and available while also being age appropriate and not so bleeding desperate. When i see someone driving a Dodge Viper, i automatically assume they're a douchebag. When i see someone at the grocery store buying loads of sausages i assume they have pretty stinky farts. Now there's plenty of times that i make that snap judgment and then immediately pull it back, realize that i'm being unkind or judging far more harshly than need be. And i always, always, make sure to keep my mind open enough to change my initial impression once i've opened the book, talked to the person, or taken a bite.
Crap, reading back this makes me sound like an unbelievable bitch. I'm not. Not really. Just kinda. But come on, try though everyone might to deny it, we all do this, i'm just ready to admit it.