argh
Grr. It annoys me when people say "You can tell they didn't have to work for what they have... but at least they were nice..." ...meaning that not working for what they have means their character is inherently flawed and their value as a person must be made up for by qualities like "nice".
Put yourself in their shoes. Picture that you're in a family that has money. Every birthday, every Christmas/Hannukah, you are given something pretty nice because your parents can afford it and want to make you happy. You might get a trampoline, a nice stereo, a new computer, an iPod, a family Caribbean cruise, a car, college tuition. You get these things. They're a part of your life. You didn't have to work for any of them because they were handed to you. If everything you need is being handed to you, what's the point of working? Some people work anyway, some of them working so they won't feel so guilty. Some people don't feel guilt about it at all.
But how does not working for what they have affect a person's character? One person might be humble about it, preferring not to talk about their material possessions and privileges. Another person might be pretty clueless that most people don't have the things they have, taking everything for granted. Another person might even be really showy about the fact that they have money and nice things. There are a multitude of ways people deal with this, which is why it's important to distinguish that the simple fact that someone has not worked for what they have doesn't reflect anything about their character.
It also bothers me when people are really heavy-handed about their hard lives working until they pass out to pay for college. Humility goes both ways.
And just to clarify that I'm not a pretentious fuck, yes, I also find it highly annoying when people with money flash it around like it doesn't matter. Except if they're my brother, and then it's highly amusing.
Put yourself in their shoes. Picture that you're in a family that has money. Every birthday, every Christmas/Hannukah, you are given something pretty nice because your parents can afford it and want to make you happy. You might get a trampoline, a nice stereo, a new computer, an iPod, a family Caribbean cruise, a car, college tuition. You get these things. They're a part of your life. You didn't have to work for any of them because they were handed to you. If everything you need is being handed to you, what's the point of working? Some people work anyway, some of them working so they won't feel so guilty. Some people don't feel guilt about it at all.
But how does not working for what they have affect a person's character? One person might be humble about it, preferring not to talk about their material possessions and privileges. Another person might be pretty clueless that most people don't have the things they have, taking everything for granted. Another person might even be really showy about the fact that they have money and nice things. There are a multitude of ways people deal with this, which is why it's important to distinguish that the simple fact that someone has not worked for what they have doesn't reflect anything about their character.
It also bothers me when people are really heavy-handed about their hard lives working until they pass out to pay for college. Humility goes both ways.
And just to clarify that I'm not a pretentious fuck, yes, I also find it highly annoying when people with money flash it around like it doesn't matter. Except if they're my brother, and then it's highly amusing.