in which the bride-to-be gets a clue
Apparently, when I tell LiveJournal that I want to friend someone, it doesn't do so. It should all be fixed now, though. I'm crossing my fingers.
It has reached my attention at last that I'm getting married. I'm not entirely certain when this happened or how it happened, but it finally struck me yesterday that I'm getting married. It might've been the shopping with the fiance for a vacuum cleaner for him. It may have been the links my friend's been posting on my Facebook wall about neat wedding ideas. Might've had a tiny something to do with my fiance and our mutual friend practicing the Wedding March tune yesterday on their respective instruments for another friend's wedding, which is this weekend. At any rate, I'm getting married.
And apparently, there's a guidebook out there and no one gave me one. I've been bumbling my way through the process and so far, not making a lot of headway. Yes, we've set the date for next year. Yes, we're looking at venues this summer. But apparently, in regards to a lot of things, I've stumbled off the starting line. Like with my bridal party. Apparently, asking the bridal party in a more formal, fun manner besides turning and asking them, "Would you be my bridesmaid?" is how you're supposed to do it, instead of, well, turning and asking them point blank. And there's supposed to be a bridal shower and a wedding shower where I have to have registries available for people in order for gifts to be bought. This isn't good for the woman who literally told her fiance that he could get her a candy bar for her birthday and she'd be fine. Hmm.
The only part of this that I'm succeeding at is, of course, the shopping aspect. I'm doing wonderful in looking at dresses and figuring out what I want. I'm even getting bossy and telling the fiance what HE should wear at the wedding. It's a beach wedding, so I've totaled his dreams of renting an easy tux and being set. Oh no. I'm insisting on a beige or gray suit with a vest, suit jacket optional. It's a BEACH. Black suits do not do well on a BEACH. Especially a beach in May. We're going to look gorgeous, dammit, whether he wants to or not.
My dress ideas are timeless. As in, no modern frills, poofs, and things of a strapless, bodice-y nature. My dress is going to be a simple design hailing from the timeless, vintage period. My dress of inspiration comes from a photoshoot by Yan Photography. A young ballerina getting married has EVERYTHING I could possibly want: the setup for a small wedding. A groom in a gray suit. Her hair, her makeup, her DRESS. The sweetheart neckline, the laced shoulder sleeves, the straight, swell-less dress. Yes, swell-less is a word. Because I said so. There is nothing poofy about this dress. The other brides of the world can have the poofy dresses: all I want is simple and chic. And this dress is it.
As that's the only thing I can focus on - namely since it's the only thing I'm apparently doing correctly - I need some help regarding anything else. To those who have been married, those who have attended weddings, those who were involved in a wedding in ANY fashion, I give to you hence a cry for your immortal wisdom.
Seriously, help me. You're my only hope, Obi-Wan Kenobi. What else should I focus on? What else do I need to do? How do I go about doing it?
This is why brides go bridezilla. Because there's a million and one things to do and, unfortunately, most of it appears to be, "Oh, THIS is how it's properly done," sorts of things. Help me be proper?
~Jean
It has reached my attention at last that I'm getting married. I'm not entirely certain when this happened or how it happened, but it finally struck me yesterday that I'm getting married. It might've been the shopping with the fiance for a vacuum cleaner for him. It may have been the links my friend's been posting on my Facebook wall about neat wedding ideas. Might've had a tiny something to do with my fiance and our mutual friend practicing the Wedding March tune yesterday on their respective instruments for another friend's wedding, which is this weekend. At any rate, I'm getting married.
And apparently, there's a guidebook out there and no one gave me one. I've been bumbling my way through the process and so far, not making a lot of headway. Yes, we've set the date for next year. Yes, we're looking at venues this summer. But apparently, in regards to a lot of things, I've stumbled off the starting line. Like with my bridal party. Apparently, asking the bridal party in a more formal, fun manner besides turning and asking them, "Would you be my bridesmaid?" is how you're supposed to do it, instead of, well, turning and asking them point blank. And there's supposed to be a bridal shower and a wedding shower where I have to have registries available for people in order for gifts to be bought. This isn't good for the woman who literally told her fiance that he could get her a candy bar for her birthday and she'd be fine. Hmm.
The only part of this that I'm succeeding at is, of course, the shopping aspect. I'm doing wonderful in looking at dresses and figuring out what I want. I'm even getting bossy and telling the fiance what HE should wear at the wedding. It's a beach wedding, so I've totaled his dreams of renting an easy tux and being set. Oh no. I'm insisting on a beige or gray suit with a vest, suit jacket optional. It's a BEACH. Black suits do not do well on a BEACH. Especially a beach in May. We're going to look gorgeous, dammit, whether he wants to or not.
My dress ideas are timeless. As in, no modern frills, poofs, and things of a strapless, bodice-y nature. My dress is going to be a simple design hailing from the timeless, vintage period. My dress of inspiration comes from a photoshoot by Yan Photography. A young ballerina getting married has EVERYTHING I could possibly want: the setup for a small wedding. A groom in a gray suit. Her hair, her makeup, her DRESS. The sweetheart neckline, the laced shoulder sleeves, the straight, swell-less dress. Yes, swell-less is a word. Because I said so. There is nothing poofy about this dress. The other brides of the world can have the poofy dresses: all I want is simple and chic. And this dress is it.
As that's the only thing I can focus on - namely since it's the only thing I'm apparently doing correctly - I need some help regarding anything else. To those who have been married, those who have attended weddings, those who were involved in a wedding in ANY fashion, I give to you hence a cry for your immortal wisdom.
Seriously, help me. You're my only hope, Obi-Wan Kenobi. What else should I focus on? What else do I need to do? How do I go about doing it?
This is why brides go bridezilla. Because there's a million and one things to do and, unfortunately, most of it appears to be, "Oh, THIS is how it's properly done," sorts of things. Help me be proper?
~Jean