A dead letter marked return to sender...
I find it really sad that when people don't agree with what you have to say, or tell you to practice what you preach, they can't follow up on their own advice and do the same. When an adult male, older than myself, finds it necessary to storm out of a dinner and take a taxi home because he can't stand to be in a car with me for more than 15 mins. When a grown up, a teacher, someone who teaches guidance and supposed acceptance to children, has the audacity to argue an opinion that he has no backing for, and treats you like a little child. I also find it pathetic that you can no longer consider me a friend, and have to go so far as to remove me from you list of friends on stupid pages like "myspace" and "facebook" that we are all a little too unashamed to admit at our age we belong to. It sort of breaks my heart that you are immature enough to have to disregard someone as a friend who disagrees with you, or raises their voice at you because you don't listen to them
So this is an open letter to you:
I am sorry you can't deal with a strong woman who has no problem vocalizing her opinions and is intelligent enough to back those opinions up, but I am not sorry for being this type of woman. I am not sorry for being educated enough to be able to argue my own cases and even have enough information to play devils advocate for the other side. I am a strong, powerful woman, and you have no right to try to stomp on me and try to make me think otherwise. It's really sad, in my opinion, that you want others to be as wonderful and as non-judgmental as you are, when you go around on a daily basis scrutinizing everyone else's actions, with no regard for how your actions might affect other people, and that maybe, just maybe your actions are not so wonderful either. I am also not sorry if I raise my voice at you. If you are going to be obnoxious enough to interrupt me, talk over me, and blatantly ignore what I have to say, I am going to get angry, and after about 5 mins of trying to subtly get your attention and make myself be heard, I AM going to raise my voice. You have no right to think that you are any more important than I am, especially, in certain cases, because you are MALE. Don't cry fucking privilege here. I don't apologize for having Breasts and a Vagina. You Penis does not grant you rights that I don't have. And don't go on and on telling me that because I am a feminist I don't have my head screwed on appropriately. Feminism goes deeper than someone like you will ever understand. It's not just fighting for equal pay and breaking the glass ceiling, or for legal abortions (FOR SHAME), it's about being a woman and NOT HAVING TO APOLOGIZE AND FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. You will NEVER understand that, as you do not have the anatomy that I do. You have no right to criticize my beliefs. I don't criticize yours. I don't agree with them. In fact, I am strongly against them and am disgusted by them, but I recognize the right for you to have those opinions and beliefs, and when it comes down to it, if someone tried to take them away from you, I'd fight to the death for you to be able to keep those rights. You don't have to agree with what I believe in, but don't tell me that they are wrong.
I am not apologizing ever again to you. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. I didn't do anything wrong. I am who I am, and if you aren't mature and composed enough to accept that, than you are a sadder person that I thought. For once, follow along with your own message, and practice what you preach. Don't judge me. What's that you say? You don't? Bull Shit. Maybe you need to go back to school and take some classes on acceptance and tolerance.
Or better yet, read this, and take it to heart.
Before you judge me take a look at you
Can't you find something better to do
Point the finger, slow to understand
Arrogance and Ignorance go hand in hand
So this is an open letter to you:
I am sorry you can't deal with a strong woman who has no problem vocalizing her opinions and is intelligent enough to back those opinions up, but I am not sorry for being this type of woman. I am not sorry for being educated enough to be able to argue my own cases and even have enough information to play devils advocate for the other side. I am a strong, powerful woman, and you have no right to try to stomp on me and try to make me think otherwise. It's really sad, in my opinion, that you want others to be as wonderful and as non-judgmental as you are, when you go around on a daily basis scrutinizing everyone else's actions, with no regard for how your actions might affect other people, and that maybe, just maybe your actions are not so wonderful either. I am also not sorry if I raise my voice at you. If you are going to be obnoxious enough to interrupt me, talk over me, and blatantly ignore what I have to say, I am going to get angry, and after about 5 mins of trying to subtly get your attention and make myself be heard, I AM going to raise my voice. You have no right to think that you are any more important than I am, especially, in certain cases, because you are MALE. Don't cry fucking privilege here. I don't apologize for having Breasts and a Vagina. You Penis does not grant you rights that I don't have. And don't go on and on telling me that because I am a feminist I don't have my head screwed on appropriately. Feminism goes deeper than someone like you will ever understand. It's not just fighting for equal pay and breaking the glass ceiling, or for legal abortions (FOR SHAME), it's about being a woman and NOT HAVING TO APOLOGIZE AND FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. You will NEVER understand that, as you do not have the anatomy that I do. You have no right to criticize my beliefs. I don't criticize yours. I don't agree with them. In fact, I am strongly against them and am disgusted by them, but I recognize the right for you to have those opinions and beliefs, and when it comes down to it, if someone tried to take them away from you, I'd fight to the death for you to be able to keep those rights. You don't have to agree with what I believe in, but don't tell me that they are wrong.
I am not apologizing ever again to you. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. I didn't do anything wrong. I am who I am, and if you aren't mature and composed enough to accept that, than you are a sadder person that I thought. For once, follow along with your own message, and practice what you preach. Don't judge me. What's that you say? You don't? Bull Shit. Maybe you need to go back to school and take some classes on acceptance and tolerance.
Or better yet, read this, and take it to heart.
Before you judge me take a look at you
Can't you find something better to do
Point the finger, slow to understand
Arrogance and Ignorance go hand in hand