no, I don't have a job yet
Here's the latest: I've had a few interviews. Last week I had two second interviews. One is for a job I really want to get (job A). That second interview did not go well, I seriously doubt they'll offer me the job. The other second interview was for a perfectly acceptable (if not as exciting) job (job B). They seemed interested in me, I said I'd like to wait to hear from job A before making a decision.
I was supposed to hear from job A the middle of this week at the earliest. I called yesterday and asked when I might hear - answer was hopefully on Tuesday. I emailed job B to say I'm still interested and said I'd contact them again on Tuesday.
Wednesday I heard about another (third) job I'd almost forgotten about - they liked me and wanted it to work, but they want someone more outgoing. That hurt, especially because I kind of expect that to be exactly what I hear from job A.
In any case, hopefully I will have answers Tuesday. I've been really nervous about this for over a week. All week, I've been hoping the phone will ring and I'll hear from Job A, and also dreading that call as I am so certain it will be "no." The longer they don't call to say no, the longer it could still be "yes." I've also been concerned that maybe job B will change their mind about me. I've been anxious all week about this, pretty much not thinking about anything else. I'm so stressed thinking about this, I'm not doing much. I feel like once I get a job, other parts of my life will fall into place - I'll have money to do social things, to move out, etc. In addition to social and societal factors, I have put a lot of pressure on myself to find a job. I'm quite stressed and anxious about this.
Overall, I think I'm handling the stress okay. Not great, but okay. However, I find it even more stressful when the first thing anyone says to me in conversation is "do you have a job yet?" Even before "how are you?" No, no I don't. Please, while I appreciate the concern and expression of interest in this thing I'm struggling with, I really don't find it helpful when that question is asked. Reminders about this thing I'm already anxious about simply stress me out more. While well-intentioned, the unsolicited advice about the jobhunt process also only increases the stress. At this point, generic support and positive thoughts are far more helpful than advice. I know friends and family are only trying to help, but the longer this goes on the harder it is to constantly remind myself of that with the daily deluge of "do you have a job yet? / oh well you should do X."
Many thanks to samykins for getting me out of the house last night to see Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Just the level of silly comedy I needed. Thanks in advance to thebfg83 for helping me relax tonight.
I was supposed to hear from job A the middle of this week at the earliest. I called yesterday and asked when I might hear - answer was hopefully on Tuesday. I emailed job B to say I'm still interested and said I'd contact them again on Tuesday.
Wednesday I heard about another (third) job I'd almost forgotten about - they liked me and wanted it to work, but they want someone more outgoing. That hurt, especially because I kind of expect that to be exactly what I hear from job A.
In any case, hopefully I will have answers Tuesday. I've been really nervous about this for over a week. All week, I've been hoping the phone will ring and I'll hear from Job A, and also dreading that call as I am so certain it will be "no." The longer they don't call to say no, the longer it could still be "yes." I've also been concerned that maybe job B will change their mind about me. I've been anxious all week about this, pretty much not thinking about anything else. I'm so stressed thinking about this, I'm not doing much. I feel like once I get a job, other parts of my life will fall into place - I'll have money to do social things, to move out, etc. In addition to social and societal factors, I have put a lot of pressure on myself to find a job. I'm quite stressed and anxious about this.
Overall, I think I'm handling the stress okay. Not great, but okay. However, I find it even more stressful when the first thing anyone says to me in conversation is "do you have a job yet?" Even before "how are you?" No, no I don't. Please, while I appreciate the concern and expression of interest in this thing I'm struggling with, I really don't find it helpful when that question is asked. Reminders about this thing I'm already anxious about simply stress me out more. While well-intentioned, the unsolicited advice about the jobhunt process also only increases the stress. At this point, generic support and positive thoughts are far more helpful than advice. I know friends and family are only trying to help, but the longer this goes on the harder it is to constantly remind myself of that with the daily deluge of "do you have a job yet? / oh well you should do X."
Many thanks to samykins for getting me out of the house last night to see Forgetting Sarah Marshall. Just the level of silly comedy I needed. Thanks in advance to thebfg83 for helping me relax tonight.