More information than you probably care about...
... but I'm typing it anyway. Deal with it.
This will be the last time I defend myself on this aspect of my life. From this point on, I'm letting whoever think whatever they want to think, and I'm going to do things the way I feel will be best for ME. But this is how I feel...
My mom and stepdad have a friend named Billy. He's like a third "Dad" so to speak... and they all believe that this marriage should wait until after Michael has gotten back from Iraq. Their reasonings for this are: 1) I WILL quit school (no maybes... just stated as a definate fact), 2) bills will come in, 3) I'll get pregnant, and 4) He might be killed.
I understand that parents are always going to have concern. But for every single thing I've EVER tried to do in my life, I've always been told that I wasn't good enough, wasn't experienced enough, wasn't this or that. And so far they've been wrong. I was told that coming to Auburn straight out of high school was a death trap for me to end up quitting and working at McDonald's the rest of my life. And here I am, 2 1/2 years later, still at Auburn, working my ass off to fix the mistakes I made during my freshman year. I admit I wasn't prepared, but that hasn't stopped me from staying here.
I know marriage is a bit different than going to college. But I have come too far to give it all up now. I AM NOT GOING TO QUIT SCHOOL. Period. End of discussion.
We've thought about this. It wasn't just a spur-of-the-moment thing where he decided one day to go buy a ring and ask me. We actually have a plan of doing things. Here's what we've thought about:
- We already pay the electricity, power, (his) cellphone, and cable bills, plus his car payment and insurance, and rent every month. This ends up being somewhere in the range of $500-550 a month. So, this onslaught of bills I've been told about? I don't forsee that being too much different than it currently is. Plus, he's getting paid a HELL of a lot better than my parents are and it will help them out as far as being able to take care of my sister.
- He gets military insurance. I'll be his spouse, and therefore I'm going to be covered by that insurance.
- When he goes overseas, it's going to be hard. I know this. It's going to be the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life. But I love him, and I'll be with him no matter what. God forbid, if something happens to him, just because I'm not married to him it won't make it hurt less. Losing him married or not will hurt me more than anything. It won't matter if I'll be a widow or just a fiance who lost her love. Plus, if he's going to be gone, we can make the most of a hard situation and get the seperation pay added to his non-taxable active duty pay he'll be receiving (as an E4 paygrade), plus a housing allowance that will pay the apartment's rent every month. He'll be making MORE than enough to keep our bills paid and have more leftover to save for a house or a car or whatever it may be needed for. It will make it so I won't have to take out any more student loans to finish school...
- I will NOT be quitting school. They can't use the excuse of "oh, that boy is going to distract you from your schoolwork." He's already here. I've actually fair a lot better this semester than any of the others so far here with him here with me. And after we get married, he's going to be overseas, so he won't be here to distract me. I won't be getting pregnant, so we won't have a child to worry about.
It's not all about the money, not by a long shot. I love him so incredibly much. I'm just saying that since most of the world won't listen to "love will get us through", I'm going to show them other "tangible" reasons to look at. This is the hand I've been dealt and this is the best possible way I can think of to make the most of a not-so-amazing situation.
Now that I've gotten all of this out of my system, I'm sharing other details that you males probably don't give two sneezes about. :)
My colors: chocolate brown and watermelon pink (yeah, it's pretty girlie.. but cute!)
My bridesmaids: Lauren, Susan, and Ashley (don't know which is MOH yet though)
Michael's groomsmen: Brandon (best man), and the other two aren't filled yet (lol)
Location: somewhere back home, but no certainties yet
The girls are going to wear chocolate brown dresses with either a pink sash/tie, or carry a small bouquet of pink and white flowers. The guys are going to wear their military dress greens (if applicable... we still don't know the other two groomsmen!). I have an idea of the look of the dress I want, but we'll just have to see how it looks... I might fall in love with something completely unexpected!
I'm out for now. Leave me some comment love and your opinons.
This will be the last time I defend myself on this aspect of my life. From this point on, I'm letting whoever think whatever they want to think, and I'm going to do things the way I feel will be best for ME. But this is how I feel...
My mom and stepdad have a friend named Billy. He's like a third "Dad" so to speak... and they all believe that this marriage should wait until after Michael has gotten back from Iraq. Their reasonings for this are: 1) I WILL quit school (no maybes... just stated as a definate fact), 2) bills will come in, 3) I'll get pregnant, and 4) He might be killed.
I understand that parents are always going to have concern. But for every single thing I've EVER tried to do in my life, I've always been told that I wasn't good enough, wasn't experienced enough, wasn't this or that. And so far they've been wrong. I was told that coming to Auburn straight out of high school was a death trap for me to end up quitting and working at McDonald's the rest of my life. And here I am, 2 1/2 years later, still at Auburn, working my ass off to fix the mistakes I made during my freshman year. I admit I wasn't prepared, but that hasn't stopped me from staying here.
I know marriage is a bit different than going to college. But I have come too far to give it all up now. I AM NOT GOING TO QUIT SCHOOL. Period. End of discussion.
We've thought about this. It wasn't just a spur-of-the-moment thing where he decided one day to go buy a ring and ask me. We actually have a plan of doing things. Here's what we've thought about:
- We already pay the electricity, power, (his) cellphone, and cable bills, plus his car payment and insurance, and rent every month. This ends up being somewhere in the range of $500-550 a month. So, this onslaught of bills I've been told about? I don't forsee that being too much different than it currently is. Plus, he's getting paid a HELL of a lot better than my parents are and it will help them out as far as being able to take care of my sister.
- He gets military insurance. I'll be his spouse, and therefore I'm going to be covered by that insurance.
- When he goes overseas, it's going to be hard. I know this. It's going to be the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my life. But I love him, and I'll be with him no matter what. God forbid, if something happens to him, just because I'm not married to him it won't make it hurt less. Losing him married or not will hurt me more than anything. It won't matter if I'll be a widow or just a fiance who lost her love. Plus, if he's going to be gone, we can make the most of a hard situation and get the seperation pay added to his non-taxable active duty pay he'll be receiving (as an E4 paygrade), plus a housing allowance that will pay the apartment's rent every month. He'll be making MORE than enough to keep our bills paid and have more leftover to save for a house or a car or whatever it may be needed for. It will make it so I won't have to take out any more student loans to finish school...
- I will NOT be quitting school. They can't use the excuse of "oh, that boy is going to distract you from your schoolwork." He's already here. I've actually fair a lot better this semester than any of the others so far here with him here with me. And after we get married, he's going to be overseas, so he won't be here to distract me. I won't be getting pregnant, so we won't have a child to worry about.
It's not all about the money, not by a long shot. I love him so incredibly much. I'm just saying that since most of the world won't listen to "love will get us through", I'm going to show them other "tangible" reasons to look at. This is the hand I've been dealt and this is the best possible way I can think of to make the most of a not-so-amazing situation.
Now that I've gotten all of this out of my system, I'm sharing other details that you males probably don't give two sneezes about. :)
My colors: chocolate brown and watermelon pink (yeah, it's pretty girlie.. but cute!)
My bridesmaids: Lauren, Susan, and Ashley (don't know which is MOH yet though)
Michael's groomsmen: Brandon (best man), and the other two aren't filled yet (lol)
Location: somewhere back home, but no certainties yet
The girls are going to wear chocolate brown dresses with either a pink sash/tie, or carry a small bouquet of pink and white flowers. The guys are going to wear their military dress greens (if applicable... we still don't know the other two groomsmen!). I have an idea of the look of the dress I want, but we'll just have to see how it looks... I might fall in love with something completely unexpected!
I'm out for now. Leave me some comment love and your opinons.