Random Thoughts
Random thought of the day: I'm sitting on the couch watching House, when 13 gets a call from a clinic where she applied for a job. The woman on the call says "we loved meeting you and, well, the job's yours". Suddenly I found myself wishing that I was the one getting that call - that I was getting a 'real job' outside the house. I'm not sure what that's about, maybe wishing for the mundaniaty of a day job. Maybe wishing for someone in a position of authority to tell me that I'm someone who knows what they're doing, who would do a good job. Or maybe I'm wishing for a job where my boss doesn't have a screaming tantrum on the street that is so loud and intense that neighbors come out to make sure no one is being kidnapped.
Tai had a tough day - getting dressed was tantrum worthy, even with grandma visiting. Going potty before bed was tantrum worthy. Going the wrong direction on the sidewalk - right, tantrum worthy. I'm not sure whether he was teething, hitting his terrible twos early, or still getting over the most recent illness, but wow. I'm tired. (Possibly because I'm still getting over whatever virus it was that we had.)
Second random thought of the day: I was in the car with mom and I asked her when she stopped being surprised at being The Mother - or if she'd ever felt that way. Yesterday we were hanging out together after she'd been in the desert for a week, and at one point Tai wanted to be carried. Mom offered to carry him, but he chose to have me carry him. She said, "Oh, you want Mommy." For a minute I found myself surprised both that he chose *me*, and also that I am The Mommy, with all that entails (both the responsibility and the bonuses). I can't believe he's almost two and I still catch myself looking over my shoulder for the Real Mommy to come home and take Tai from Babysitter Me. Not very often, and not with real desire for it to happen.
It was funny, Mom said she didn't remember whether she ever felt that or not. She couldn't tease out whether that was because she had a different relationship with her mother than the relationship we have, or whether it's a facet of our relationship or what. Interesting question, though.
Also - we stopped at Target on the way home from Babys R Us (I had to pick up a pump part for my breast pump) and with all of the holiday decorations up, I am suddenly looking forward to the winter festivities. I can't wait to make this time just as magical for Tai as Halloween was. It's only going to be more fun as he gets older.
Tai had a tough day - getting dressed was tantrum worthy, even with grandma visiting. Going potty before bed was tantrum worthy. Going the wrong direction on the sidewalk - right, tantrum worthy. I'm not sure whether he was teething, hitting his terrible twos early, or still getting over the most recent illness, but wow. I'm tired. (Possibly because I'm still getting over whatever virus it was that we had.)
Second random thought of the day: I was in the car with mom and I asked her when she stopped being surprised at being The Mother - or if she'd ever felt that way. Yesterday we were hanging out together after she'd been in the desert for a week, and at one point Tai wanted to be carried. Mom offered to carry him, but he chose to have me carry him. She said, "Oh, you want Mommy." For a minute I found myself surprised both that he chose *me*, and also that I am The Mommy, with all that entails (both the responsibility and the bonuses). I can't believe he's almost two and I still catch myself looking over my shoulder for the Real Mommy to come home and take Tai from Babysitter Me. Not very often, and not with real desire for it to happen.
It was funny, Mom said she didn't remember whether she ever felt that or not. She couldn't tease out whether that was because she had a different relationship with her mother than the relationship we have, or whether it's a facet of our relationship or what. Interesting question, though.
Also - we stopped at Target on the way home from Babys R Us (I had to pick up a pump part for my breast pump) and with all of the holiday decorations up, I am suddenly looking forward to the winter festivities. I can't wait to make this time just as magical for Tai as Halloween was. It's only going to be more fun as he gets older.