safe co-sleeping

[sukidee]

Hi everyone. I just had my daughter a week ago. During my pregnancy, we procured a crib and set it up in our bedroom right next to our bed... I liked the idea of being in the same room with my baby, but didn't think I'd ever be able to actually sleep with her (I am the type of person who needs my OWN space

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[the_questess]

I'm all about following your instincts (as you have already been doing

[introducingyael]

Personally,my gut tells me that it's related to sticking a helpless newborn off to sleep alone without the security or comfort of its mother, whom it just spent the rest of its life literally attached to and certainly isn't ready to suddenly be ripped away for huge amounts of time to try and regulate its systems completely on its own.
My daughter was almost 5 months old and sleeping on her back alone in the family bed when she died of SIDS...so, your gut might be a little off.

[the_questess]

alone is the keyword here

[introducingyael]

Tact isn't your forte, is it?

[the_questess]

Just following precedent
*curtsy*

[mistresstrixe]

wow, you are a tremendously ignorant, insensitive cunt.

would you like your ElJay Mommy Superprize now? Because clearly your parenting skills are so superior, what having been a parent for almost A WHOLE YEAR that you are authority to hand out comments to other people making a judgment on a situation you have no knowledge of.

You have admitted yourself that you don't know what SIDS is, nor do professionals know what causes it. In fact, part of the medical criteria for a SIDS diagnosis is that no other contributing factors are found after a detail autopsy and thorough examination of the scene of death and hours and events prior to the child's passing. I guess from your comment you have never had your baby out of your sight for any length of time whatsoever. I'm sure you sling her to use the bathroom and shower, right? And you have a medical degree and a specialty in pediatrics so you are qualified to be making comments such as these, right? Oh wait, no...you don't and you aren't

[the_questess]

Obviously I reached out through teh interwebs and grabbed you by the collar and attacked you, because I just knew you were out there and that you would so easily feel guilty and attacked.
Oh yes.

Because CLEARLY I said that ever leaving your baby alone was going to kill them

[mistresstrixe]

Clearly you missed the part that I was not the original person you replied. And you also apparently missed the memo that lots of babies die of SIDS next to, or in the presence of their parents. the being alone for 5 minutes safely sleeping was not the cause of SIDS, which is what you seemed to be implying. Or you know, giving your OPINION (which is worth jack shit, btw) to someone who had actual real life experience in that area. Your remark, short as it was, was without tact or thought.

I'm a perfectly happy person, as a matter of fact. Thanks for asking.

[introducingyael]

introducingyael =\= mistresstrixe

...why would someone assume you lost a child when a)you respond insensitively to someone who has b) you have given no indication anywhere public that you have?