Behavior modification?
I'm usually not into behaviorism. Playful parenting, unconditional parenting, that's me. But, since Shiny passed away, Moo's behaviors have been less manageable and reasonable. I understand that it's coming from grief and confusion and all these complex feelings he's acting out on. I understand that he's only 2 and a half, kinehura and thus can't express himself in words and so his feelings come out in other ways...but how do I get him to stop beating the crap out of everyone?
He shoves other kids, punches grown-ups and no amount of "gentle touches," can refine him. Usually if he pushes another kid, we hang out with them until they are done crying and I point out that the kid is crying in reaction to what he did (not accusingly, just informing him that pushing makes someone else cry.) and then when the other kid is ready, Moo gives them a gentle touch. Then we all go back to playing and everything is fine. Yesterday, he pushed a little girl, we went through our routine and then he pushed her again. Twice.
How do I handle this? I worry that he's unfit for public consumption.
He shoves other kids, punches grown-ups and no amount of "gentle touches," can refine him. Usually if he pushes another kid, we hang out with them until they are done crying and I point out that the kid is crying in reaction to what he did (not accusingly, just informing him that pushing makes someone else cry.) and then when the other kid is ready, Moo gives them a gentle touch. Then we all go back to playing and everything is fine. Yesterday, he pushed a little girl, we went through our routine and then he pushed her again. Twice.
How do I handle this? I worry that he's unfit for public consumption.