OH mY so much going on in "equestrian"
Now things are for sure a bit out of hand on the forum. I thought I had seen some of the nastiest things go on there that I ever would but this latest has really made me stop and consider what the fuck the ppl in the world are coming to.
I like Harnessphoto and enjoy reading her posts and always have. She is one of my very fe friends. I find her mind quite refreshing. If half the rest used their mind as much as she many ppl might be better off. I thought if anyone knew her at all that at the end of her first paragraph the "evil grin" should have tipped off anyone with a mind that maybe she was not being serious here.
Now I am older than most on this forum and may look at some things a bit differently. I do very much agree with Harnessphotos aproach to life as where she does not let anyone push her around. I have never either. I may be 48 but it was only two yrs ago the last time I grabbed someone, right or wrong. The person had very much done me wrong. I heard he was broke down on the sid eof the road and I went after him. Grabbed him by his throat and proceeded to pull him from his van while his brother begged for me to leave him alone. The bastard had just stolen 5 brand new pairs of snowshoes from my enclosed front porch that I had just bought for our family for Christmas. Maybe that was not the right way to handle it( I did call the fucking cops, like they care though) but it was handled. No matter ones opinion it was my way of handling it and that is my decision to make. So Harnessphoto made a decision on how to handle something and right or wrong by whoevers opinionn that was her choice. I personally found it funny. She in no way caused what happened after that at all. That was done by whoever emailed the satire to J's barn owner. J, I do not know at all. I do really feel for her situation though even though I do think she herself at times handles herself on here questionable at times.
I am so sick of seeing ppl lit into on this forum for stupid fucking crap. I do believe J was on of the ones who tore into Evergrey last week. I really did take offense to that. As far as I can see evergrey has been the best thing to come into Solomons life. That horse has put on weight, brightened right up and his whole attitude seems to ahve changed since she has found him. Evergrey also has a serious disease which makes it most impossible to lose weight. I do think the comments were very hurtful. It is hard for someone who has always been thin to know just how much comments such as thta can hurt someone. She knows she's overweight for gods sake. SHE is the one who lives her life. I do not think there is any set rule for weight, it much depends on the horse and the breed. IF I thought that she was harming that animal by riding it the little she has I would have said something, but something nicely said. There was no need for Well, thank god you tried not to bounce. That is hurtful and accomplished nothing more than hurting her feelings greatly. Now what the fuck does that accomplish? It could and has many times caused ppl, to avoid further hurt, to shut themselves up, to not leavfe their homes, to hide from the world. Is that healthy and productive? I think not. Everyone is so concerned they say for the horses. Then why do I see posts created for the sole purpose of " oh look, new pink bell boots" while the horse is tied to a wheelbarrow? Or drafts in a lovely barn but unable to life their heads up above their withers as the ceiling is too low. Or the post where the woven wire fence is hanging down below the horses knees. Is that not endangering the horse?
I do have four girls of my own, ages 19 - 29. I do realize the drama they can create. I have not yet forgotten my own younger yrs either. I think harnessphoto shows more maturity for her age than many on here. She certainly is able to handle a bad situation with maturity, quick thinking, and many times brillance. If the rest her age could respond to events as she we might be getting somewhere. No matter whether someone agrees wiwth what she did or not imo she did not cause J's problem. No, someone else took it upon themselves to create that. I know what it's like to all of a sudden lose where you keep your horse. I once was asked to leave the same day. I had had a little confrontation with the land owners tenant who had not fed their dog in two weeks. I arrived to find the dog had eaten my saddle and bridle as the tenant had moved it within the chained dogs reach. I went to her door and said she was to come out right now and feed and water that dog or I would drag her out there to do it. She did it. The next day the land owner was waiting for me. I ended up walking my horse around the dirt roads and sleeping on the side of the road with her and my donkey for three days. So , yes I do know what losing a place for your horse is about. If I knew who this fucking worthless piece of crap was I would track her down myself and I really think she'd think again before doing anything remotely like this again. IF she has any sense at all she would anyway. I've never had anyone not after a confrontation with me and of that I am positive. And for sure we know it was a female who did it. Women seem to thrive on thta kind of crap unfortunately. That's being nothing more than a filthy dirty fucking worthless rat. And a rat is the one thing I have no use for at all. Well, I can think of a use but best to leave thta out I think as I'm considering leaving this public, not that anyone reads it but anyway.
I just don't understand causing this kind of hurt. I have spent my life thus far helping others, not hurting them. Why in the world would anyone want to be a hurtful person. Seems to be many on this forum sometimes. Maybe why I have always chosen to stay away from the lesson barns and such, huh? I am almost 5'11" myself and about 215. NOt small, I know it, don't need to be told. And whoever it was wanted to talkk of heavier ppl not being healthy and productive. Well, even with my spine disease and my doctores orders not to do hardly anything I would just bet I can work just as hard if not harder than many on this forum. Day before yesterday I moved three huge piles of very heavy sod and it didn't take me long either. I think I am quite fit, maybe not healthy but I did not ask for all of these diseases I have either nor did evergrey I just bet.
Is it not possible for ppl to be nice to each other anymore? Do ppl get their jollies being so mean and inconsiderate to others? What a sad world we have become if this is so. I was happy to see the person throwing the racial slurs cast out. Good enough. Now I can see just how low some here are. Incredibly low.
I gave up giving my opinion on anything long ago. Either I'm told that what I'm doing isn't possible although it may be something I've been doing for a very long time. Or the post is tottally taken wrong, again that interent tone thing, or only half the post will be read and then commented on before the person even knows what it really says. When I see a horse tied to a wheelbarrow I so want to say something but refrain. My vet knows nothing. My farrier who has worked at Buckingham Palace knows nothing. I know nothing. I have had my own horses for 40 yrs this yr and I wouldn't trade what I have learned in those yrs for any amount of lessons from one of these fancy barns with the snobby young girls who will say things like, "All my life I've...., yeah, all my life my ass, many are still in their parents care and I don't care what they think they know, they know shit about life. Harnessphoto has seen hard times, has not had everything handed to her and is not at all afraid of work. Having a work ethic myself that never quits I can admire that and do. I do not feel she had any idea at all that all this would happen, she did what she did out of wanting to see something better happen in this community although that does not seem likely at all. So she stands up for herself. That is not wrong and is the better way of approaching life imo. She is a real asset to the ppl at bluestone. Yes, she is still very young too. There have been one or two times where I thought huh, I wouldn't say she has totally learned that yet, there is a bit more to know about this than that. But not often. She is very young and learning. She tries very hard, HAS learned a lot and continues to enrich her education and I'm sure being the type of girl she is, always will.
There are many on here whom I feel really know their shit, which is why I still bother to stay here. It sure does suck that all this other crap is always going on in the middle of the good stuff. Okay, that's about it I guess , not that my opinion is valued around the community anyhow but this one was not going to go by without my two cents even if only in my journal.
Keep up with all youir hard work harnessphoto, YOU will succeed in life where so many on here have already terribly failed and will never amount to shit. I do still admire your intelligence. Keep using your mind, don't let it idle. You will come out on top where some of the rest will always slither in the dirt. I do sure hope you are able to get things straightened around for J.
It does really distress me that humans have so much trouble trying to be nice to one another. It just isn't supposed to be that way. We do not need more hate in this world, we need compassion and understanding, and to care about the welfare of one another.
Just my thoughts on the recent matters.