30 Days to Getting Over the Dork you Used to Call Your Boyfriend
Since today is Valentine’s Day aka SAD (Single Awareness Day) aka VD Day (Yeah, it's what you think it is.) to others aka Day Before Discount Chocolate Day, why not make a post related to love or something like it? So I’m going to review this little book, I found at the library the other day.
No, I didn’t get my heart broken or break up with anyone. It is kind of hard to breakup with a “dork” when I don’t even have one in the first place. I found this book in the library when I was looking for Dork Diaries. Yes, I’ve been reading a lot of children/young adult fiction lately. What drew me to the book was the bright yellow and green hearts dotted all over the cover, and the word “DORK” splashed across the front.
Anyways “Getting Over the Dork” is a fun read and kind of cute. It is mostly geared towards younger women. Because most of the things she tells you to do for the 30 days sound kind of ridiculous, therefore it is safe to say I would never them do if I broke up with someone. However, she did list some fun activities that one could do even if one wasn’t getting over a breakup. Such “feel good” fun activities include volunteer work, working out, playing around with fung shui, listing out your passions, listing who inspires you, and working on your family tree.
Since this is a self-help book, all the activities are geared towards “finding oneself.” But aside from the corny activities, the tone of the book is pretty cute and light with lots of references to pop culture. One thing that really stood out to me was Hantman’s definition of Love and Lust which was very simple and to the point. So what is Love?
“Love is pretty intense, and it can take many different forms: love for your family members, for your friends and yeah, for a cute guy. But no matter what kind of love it is, it always has caring as a major component.
Love is not something you can make people feel. Love is not something you can or should be used to make anybody do anything. Love is about trust and compassion and kindness.
Lust is about wanting to make out and more. Lust isn’t really a component of love, although it can exist at the same time as love…
Lust is not love.
And while we’re on that subject, love is not sex. Sex is not love. ”
The chapter continues on to talk about how love should be, and she hits the nail on the head on how love shouldn’t involve threats or manipulations, but instead it should have sincerity, affection, warmth, security and commitment.
That’s pretty profound for a little book that is bright yellow and dotted with green hearts. I guess you can’t really judge a book by its cover.
Another pleasant surprise about this book is that it has great music recommendations. For each day, she recommends a song to fit the theme of the day. Here are some recommended songs that intrigued me:
No Doubt, “Ex-Girlfriend”
Sia, “Breathe Me”
Dido, “Thank You”
Yeah Yeah Yeahs, “Maps”
Modest Mouse, “Float On”
Ben Folds Five, “Songs for the Dumped”
Liz Phair, “Never Said”
Macy Grey, “It’s Love”
Death Cab for Cutie, “The Sound of Settling”
Imogen Heap, “Shine”
Jack Johnson, “Mudfootball”
The Shins, “Girl Inform Me”
The Streets, “Dry Your Eyes”
Jimmy Eat World, “The Middle”
Rilo Kiley, “Capturing Moods”
Kelly Clarkson, “Since U Been Gone”
The Cure, “Pictures of You”
Oasis, “Don’t Go Away”
Beck, “Guess I’m Doing Fine”
Death Cab for Cutie, “Lack of Color”
They Might Be Giants, “Lucky Ball and Chain”
Garbage, “Cup of Coffee”
Green Day, “Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”
Cake, “Never There”
Moby, “At Least We Tried”
The Cranberries, “Linger”
U2, “With or Without You”
Rilo Kiley, “Does He Love You?”
Feist, “Inside and Out”
Blur, “No Distance Left to Run”
Coldplay, “Trouble”
Trespassers Williams, “Alone” (I was really surprised to see this band listed. I haven’t heard of this band since graduating university.)
These were just the songs from the book that I recognized or listened to quite often! She also lists more songs, but I didn’t recognize them, but I’m going to give them a go since so many of the songs she recommends are songs I already like.
After reading this book, it got me to thinking about who inspires me and what are my passions. Jane Austen has always been someone I admired, and unsurprisingly, my passions are for reading and writing.
So how would I put my passions for reading and writing to good use? I’ve decided that this year. I will try to write reviews for most of the books that I will read this year. Starting with this one so…
30 Days to Getting Over the Dork you Used to Call Your Boyfriend by Clea Hantmen is a fun read. It won’t really heal a broken heart, but it should get you in the right mind set towards getting over someone and being single again. But I’d just go through this book for the music recommendations and tips on flirting for those who have no game like myself.
No, I didn’t get my heart broken or break up with anyone. It is kind of hard to breakup with a “dork” when I don’t even have one in the first place. I found this book in the library when I was looking for Dork Diaries. Yes, I’ve been reading a lot of children/young adult fiction lately. What drew me to the book was the bright yellow and green hearts dotted all over the cover, and the word “DORK” splashed across the front.
Anyways “Getting Over the Dork” is a fun read and kind of cute. It is mostly geared towards younger women. Because most of the things she tells you to do for the 30 days sound kind of ridiculous, therefore it is safe to say I would never them do if I broke up with someone. However, she did list some fun activities that one could do even if one wasn’t getting over a breakup. Such “feel good” fun activities include volunteer work, working out, playing around with fung shui, listing out your passions, listing who inspires you, and working on your family tree.
Since this is a self-help book, all the activities are geared towards “finding oneself.” But aside from the corny activities, the tone of the book is pretty cute and light with lots of references to pop culture. One thing that really stood out to me was Hantman’s definition of Love and Lust which was very simple and to the point. So what is Love?
“Love is pretty intense, and it can take many different forms: love for your family members, for your friends and yeah, for a cute guy. But no matter what kind of love it is, it always has caring as a major component.
Love is not something you can make people feel. Love is not something you can or should be used to make anybody do anything. Love is about trust and compassion and kindness.
Lust is about wanting to make out and more. Lust isn’t really a component of love, although it can exist at the same time as love…
Lust is not love.
And while we’re on that subject, love is not sex. Sex is not love. ”
The chapter continues on to talk about how love should be, and she hits the nail on the head on how love shouldn’t involve threats or manipulations, but instead it should have sincerity, affection, warmth, security and commitment.
That’s pretty profound for a little book that is bright yellow and dotted with green hearts. I guess you can’t really judge a book by its cover.
Another pleasant surprise about this book is that it has great music recommendations. For each day, she recommends a song to fit the theme of the day. Here are some recommended songs that intrigued me:
No Doubt, “Ex-Girlfriend”
Sia, “Breathe Me”
Dido, “Thank You”
Yeah Yeah Yeahs, “Maps”
Modest Mouse, “Float On”
Ben Folds Five, “Songs for the Dumped”
Liz Phair, “Never Said”
Macy Grey, “It’s Love”
Death Cab for Cutie, “The Sound of Settling”
Imogen Heap, “Shine”
Jack Johnson, “Mudfootball”
The Shins, “Girl Inform Me”
The Streets, “Dry Your Eyes”
Jimmy Eat World, “The Middle”
Rilo Kiley, “Capturing Moods”
Kelly Clarkson, “Since U Been Gone”
The Cure, “Pictures of You”
Oasis, “Don’t Go Away”
Beck, “Guess I’m Doing Fine”
Death Cab for Cutie, “Lack of Color”
They Might Be Giants, “Lucky Ball and Chain”
Garbage, “Cup of Coffee”
Green Day, “Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”
Cake, “Never There”
Moby, “At Least We Tried”
The Cranberries, “Linger”
U2, “With or Without You”
Rilo Kiley, “Does He Love You?”
Feist, “Inside and Out”
Blur, “No Distance Left to Run”
Coldplay, “Trouble”
Trespassers Williams, “Alone” (I was really surprised to see this band listed. I haven’t heard of this band since graduating university.)
These were just the songs from the book that I recognized or listened to quite often! She also lists more songs, but I didn’t recognize them, but I’m going to give them a go since so many of the songs she recommends are songs I already like.
After reading this book, it got me to thinking about who inspires me and what are my passions. Jane Austen has always been someone I admired, and unsurprisingly, my passions are for reading and writing.
So how would I put my passions for reading and writing to good use? I’ve decided that this year. I will try to write reviews for most of the books that I will read this year. Starting with this one so…
30 Days to Getting Over the Dork you Used to Call Your Boyfriend by Clea Hantmen is a fun read. It won’t really heal a broken heart, but it should get you in the right mind set towards getting over someone and being single again. But I’d just go through this book for the music recommendations and tips on flirting for those who have no game like myself.