Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb

[athena328]

Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb

Recently I read Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb. This book has been getting much publicity, both good and bad. It seems to me that those who attack her either have not read the book or completely misunderstand it

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totally agree!

[athena328]

How is married life going for you? It seems like your husband is a good man! What made you decide that he was the one you wanted to marry?

I think the problem that she was railing against in the book is that many women (including herself)overlook a nice guy who will treat them decently and help with the housework, while going for the bad boy who is good in bed but has already has two children from previous relationships and can't hold down a job. Personally, I would take the nice guy any day, because life is not a romance novel and men do not reform.

Did I ever tell you the story about what attracted my current boyfriend to me? Its a funny story. I was ranting to a mutual friend about how guys these days are lazy and cowardly because they complain about not having a girlfriend/wife but are not willing to put forth the effort and initiative that having a relationship requires. He overheard the conversation, and decided to prove that he was neither lazy nor cowardly by asking me out!

Anyway, I think the point of "Marry Him" is that standards are fine, but they need to be the right standards. I would also add that women like her who have silly standards are only a small subset of the population (although they certainly exist. I've known someone who dismissed someone because "he has a big nose.").

Re: totally agree!

[sillypyah]

He is a very good man. :) I knew I wanted to marry him because he was smart and ambitious, really wanted children, was willing to raise his children Jewish, had a good sense of humor, had similar values about money, etc. One moment I knew was when he was complaining about his brother-in-law, and said that he (Brandon) wanted someone who would be willing to "dance in the kitchen." Like enjoying silly things and not taking yourself too seriously. I liked that a lot.